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Divorce/Separation :
God Bless Karma...Adios Delusionland!

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 flygirl123 (original poster member #32672) posted at 1:26 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

I have the most delightful, and the most pathetic, Karma Bus story to tell! I am giddy with laughter over the Idiot King getting his just rewards, and...feel slightly sad for the poor tool.

A little refresher...he is a "cop". Well...a jailer who dreams of being a real street cop. He has been in that position for the last three years and was SURE that he would be working the streets within his first year and a half because he is so damned amazing. Not happened...yet.

He also told me, on the phone, quite some time ago, that he was going to build this amazing life with the "human mattress" and that I just needed to accept it and move on with my life. He was so heartless and cruel that there were times I simply felt like I couldn't breathe and would die. Not happened...yet.

Both her and he walked out of their respective marriages with zero debt, a car, two trucks, and an SUV and his beloved Harley, all with clean, lien-free titles. Her ex took all of their debt, and I took all of ours...plus am raising our three children with little help from him (which is fine).

Now...yesterday.

My bank calls to tell me that they just received BANKRUPTCY papers from him and ho. He and I still own a real estate property together which is currently under contract for purchase. We still owe the bank for the property...I have been paying the mortgage on the property for the last three years (he has not). Bank knows I will take care of it, neither the bank, nor I are worried.

I call my attorney to tell him about the impending bankruptcy, he says "give me a minute" and pulls up the ENTIRE bankruptcy petition. He copies for me, and I am reading with great amusment and amazement. He has to forfeit all vehicles (INCLUDING THE BELOVED HARLEY) except the small SUV, which they now owe over 9,000 on. He has borrowed against all vehicles from banks to the tune of 20,000. They have amassed a staggering credit card debt at a whopping 88,000.00 in just two years. And they bought a beautiful truck together shortly after our divorce for about 40 grand...and it was repossessed. I'm fighting back a smile.

NOW...as I am calling my bestie to let her know about his financial demise in spite of his beautiful life with "mattress"...she informs me that moron tested for the road position with his department and FAILED THE PHYSICAL. Did I mention that another test position won't be open for another year and you must be 35 or younger to go to the training institute and he is breathing down the back of 36??????

Needless to say...he texted yesterday to inform me that it's all my fault. I know, I know...of COURSE IT IS! EVERYTHING IS!!!!

So...dream job down the toilet...check.

Beautiful life with the stain...non-existent...check.

Apparently the doors to Delusionland have been opened WIDE...and he is finally getting a giant fresh whiff of the shit he has sown!!!!!

My life is truly amazing, peaceful, and blessed. Even more than I ever imagined.

God bless Karma.

Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

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PhantomLimb ( member #39668) posted at 1:33 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

I'm fascinated that he blames you. How is that even possible???

BS / D

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 1:34 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

The stupidity is astonishing.

Sometimes we get so stuck on the bullets we DIDN'T dodge we forget to count our blessings for the bullets we DID dodge.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Reality ( member #39077) posted at 1:53 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

That's an early Christmas present, flygirl. Happy holidays!

And yeah, it's astonishing the things we get blamed for. My XWH swore if it weren't for the kids and I holding him back, he would have been an Olympic athlete, a investment banker genius, and would be considering what offers to take from any and all porn film makers because he's just that amazing.

Almost ten years post divorce, he owns no property, owes us $100k plus, hasn't been able to maintain a long term relationship, and all his glorious purpose is... strangely invisible.

On a serious side, when he started his perpetual implosion the first few years after the divorce, I did get served with lawsuit papers - someone trying to put a lien against my home because of debts he had run up post divorce. It cost $1000 to prove the debts were post divorce. Be on guard, since you share a title.

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Rainbows ( member #39362) posted at 2:24 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

On some level he mistaked his ho for you. Sounds like you were the backbone of your family and now he's realizing it.

Sounds to me like his blame toward you stems from a whole lot of regret for the stupid decisions he's made.

There is always a rainbow after every storm.

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PhantomLimb ( member #39668) posted at 3:03 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

The whole time we were M, I was the reason his dissertation wasn't getting done... Left him alone for a year to do it when he got his new job. Instead of coming home from work and writing... he started up an A with OW.

He still blamed me that it wasn't done on DDay. I had to remind him that he had evidently been doing something else with his time while I was gone.

He also alienated everyone in his new job and got transferred.

These people are a waste of space.

[This message edited by PhantomLimb at 9:05 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)]

BS / D

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BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 3:11 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

This gives me hope! Such joy.....lmao

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 3:21 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

This kind of holiday story just warms my heart. God bless us every one!!

Bwwwaaahahahahahhaaaaa!!!!!

The stain and the mattress, or the turd and the toilet - yep they belong together.

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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finallymefirst ( member #41060) posted at 3:22 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

I know that it doesn't feel like it sometimes, but we are soooo blessed. I'll take my boring drama free life anytime. He really is stupid.

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shiloe ( member #1224) posted at 3:35 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

and he is finally getting a giant fresh whiff of the shit he has sown!!!!!

I hope the karma bus keeps coming back for him.

But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 58 Dday 03/2011
Cheater -58 Married 26 yrs
DD - 23 DD -21 DS-19
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA- new MCOW D-2/17

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Dawn58 ( member #37656) posted at 3:36 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

Your story just made my morning!! So nice to hear that there are times when the lying cheats get hit with the consequences of their actions.

I think the bus will make a stop at my STBXH door when he has to write me (what I hope to be) a very nice settlement check. Hopefully the OW will take him for the rest of his money!!!

Merry f-ing Christmas to him.

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

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No12turn2 ( member #40996) posted at 3:52 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

I can't wait for my karma moment

Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

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Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 3:56 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

Three words:

Ha

Ha

Ha

Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.

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Lostandpregnant ( member #41433) posted at 4:13 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

This brings me joy.

And yeah, mine blames me for debt as well, even though I made no debt, and gave him thousands.

Idiots.

He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.

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careerlady ( member #16958) posted at 4:52 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

Omg I'm interested in knowing how it was YOUR fault. These turds are amazing! I don't know if it was so much karma as it was the natural consequences of their continued poor decision making/delusional thinking

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

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Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 5:06 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

I would have had a hard time not texting back:

"I really wish I could take credit for this. Unfortunately, you did this all to yourself, buddy. But if you're willing to give me the credit for you getting exactly what you deserve, I'll take it."

"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson

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sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 5:54 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

"I really wish I could take credit for this. Unfortunately, you did this all to yourself, buddy. But if you're willing to give me the credit for you getting exactly what you deserve, I'll take it."

LOVE!!!

How in the hell, I ask you, does one run up 88k worth of CC debt in 2 years!? I think it has something to do with the sense of entitlement.

I know with my XWH, I kept him OUT of debt, I was the one who pinched pennies, and my belief was if we can't afford to pay cash for it, we don't need it. I was the one who had to talk him out of going out to dinner all the time, when we could just cook at home. While he was with me, we had no credit cards. I would bet that XWH and OW are running up all sorts of debt, due to their sense of entitlement.

I am JEALOUS that you get to witness the unraveling. I long for the day.

D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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betrayed13yrs ( member #40343) posted at 6:52 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

OMG I am sooooooooo jealous that your ex-bastard got a first class ticket on the karma bus!!!!!! No fair!!! You're story made my day, perhaps there is hope that mine will get his just dessert. BASTARDS!!!!! LOL

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jemimapd ( member #37895) posted at 7:51 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

he texted yesterday to inform me that it's all my fault

Yes, my ex's problems are already all my fault and we have only been divorced for two weeks.

I am stunned at the CC spending. But then again I spent my marriage hauling my ex away from ridiculous schemes. He lost a lot of money, not so good at making it.

He thinks he is worth the very best. So I won't be seeing him in Aldi tomorrow.

Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 7:55 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

Nah uh. You forgot to tell us how he blamed you.

Pleeeease, inform so we can get more laughter.

Pray tell how you destroyed his life after you were no longer any part of it!

I loved your post. Gosh Karma has such a warm and fuzzy feel to it!

I'm waiting on more of the same for my STBXH.

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014

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