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User Topic: Get a massage!
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously. I think that would be an awesome way to start your NB (or give it another jolt if you feel like you're floundering). I had my first ever massage today, and it was wonderful. I think it goes well with a NB because:

--Assuming you're single, you benefit from the power of touch (in a non-sexual way, of course). We don't all have close friends or family members to hug; a massage isn't quite the same thing, but I think it's still very powerful.

--A massage is all about YOU. For one hour, the massage therapist took care of me. I didn't have to do anything except lie under a towel. Too many of us are burning the candle at both ends, working our hardest at our jobs, at single parenting, and maybe even at caring for other family members (like aging parents). You need time now and again that is not about caring for other people. A massage is an excellent kind of self-care. We probably all spent a lot of time in our former relationships caring for our partners and let ourselves fall by the wayside. Cut that out. It's time for you to take care of you.

--We could all use the rush of endorphins and a pause in life. My sore muscles felt better. I walked out in the December sunshine afterwards, and I literally had a big grin on my face. I've been very stressed out lately with work and with always having something to do or somewhere to be. Today, I had an adult time out, and it made me feel very happy. You need more happy.

So go get a massage. Mine was even covered by health insurance (check and see if yours might be covered as well). I think that massage therapy schools also offer discounted massages so that the students there can get their required practice in. Even if you don't have some sort of coverage or discount, you deserve one. Take some time out to stop worrying. Stop caring, for just a moment, about all of those stresses and burdens in your life. You are worth it because I said so.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Man I love massages.
Hubby and I like to get a couples massage for our anniversary (for certain), as well as a few other times during the year (as needed).

I'd go every month if I could afford it.

Make sure to check out Groupon.com for spa/massage deals. I just purchased two 1-hr packages for $98 total!


Me - 42
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
5 Furkids (3 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 6059 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh man, I'm feeling like a massage now.
Ahhhhh, gonna make an appt for this weekend tomorrow! Hmmmm 2 hours sounds really really good. I'm gonna have to splurge on me.
Thank you for a wonderful idea!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
kernel
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I second, or third this idea! I try to go once a month - love it!!

[This message edited by kernel at 5:53 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday)]


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

Posts: 4912 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've never had one before, if you can believe that! A friend of mine says she's dragging me to one in January... I can't wait!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've never had one before
OMG you have to go! Afterwards, you'll be an energized limp noodle. You wont know whether to go storm a castle or go home and take a nap!


Me - 42
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
5 Furkids (3 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 6059 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^

I have them as often as possible. Especially good in winter, warms everything right up.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17124 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Going next Saturday with my mom and sister! We do it every year for a girls day out.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7420 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trying, I don't want to sound negative but we do need to consider this in the context of the purchase of ziploc bags.

While you are out enjoying yourself with no thought to economical food preservation, your ex is battling a rising deficit in both gallon and sandwich sizes. The situation is so serious that he may soon have to access his emergency supplies of clingfilm.

Please think of others during this season when so many people are struggling to keep airtight.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jemimapd, you are all kinds of awesome. I wish you lived near me; I'd drag you to a massage! We could then go around my neighborhood, asking my neighbors if they have any extra Ziploc bags they'd like to donate to XWH's cause and roundly chastising them if they admit to throwing the used ones away.

Ah yes, I have such a special XWH. Never mind what he's done to his family or what his rampant consumerism does to the earth in other ways. Shh. We shall not speak of that... can't you see he's saving the world one Ziploc bag at a time?


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's going to be my divorce gift to me. There is a Groupon for a place by me.
My shoulders and neck have been wracked with tension for over 4 years now.
Court date is the 17th, I'm going to schedule one for that evening. :0)


Divorced 1/3/14

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great idea for the start of a New Beginning! NB's are about thinking about one's own needs, putting yourself first etc. A massage is a wonderful way of taking care of oneself!

I've got a gift card from my birthday for a massage that I need to use...will call tomorrow...thanks for the reminder Trying!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3005 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just reading about how when our body feels better our brain interprets the relaxed muscles and floating bliss feeling as everything is right in the world and it lifts our moods tremendously.

I am going to sign up for one soon too!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5726 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It really is great for your body and soul... My little brother bought me a membership to a local massage place. I get a massage each month! Soooo awesome, such a stress reliever.

Going this weekend with my bestie!


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3520 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you got a massage and it made you feel so great, trying. I get them as often as I can.

I have a wonderful therapist who has become a good friend. Sadly, she should belong here also. She had several other things going on (healthwise) and it was very tough going for a while, but things seem to be better for her now. We were supporting each other through those times. I really miss her when I go away.

Funny, she tells me that my muscles are not nearly as tense now as they were when I was with xpos. The first massage I ever had, many years ago, the therapist told me I felt like X number of years worth of tension was built up in my muscles. I burst out laughing because that number was exactly the number of years I had been M! I should have taken that as a warning and done something about it then.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, December 4th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another massage fan here too :)


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2567 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Why??
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, December 4th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oooh, thanks for the push! I've seen $10 for 15 mins. seated massages at my nail salon and have been holding off.

Got a facial for my b'day and that was awesome

Glad you enjoyed it!!


"Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game."

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