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User Topic: I lost my rock at 507pm 12/2/2013
sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My friend, Stacy was my rock during the early days of the affair. When I was pregnant and stuck in the hospital for 6 weeks, she talked to me in the wee hours of the night (west coast to east coast), literally every night and make me laugh. Iremember her saying "girl, you just blew my wig off" when I said something that made her laugh or suprised her.

She is the reason my son was so fearless. Yep. All her fault. Why? Well, while pregnant, she said to me "your son is just like my nephew". When I asked what her nephew was like, she replied, "He jumped out of a second story window to see what it was like".

We met when I transfered to Hollywood H.S. in the 10th grade. In the 11th, I was in another school. I asked for an opportunity transfer for the 12th grade. Even tho we hung out in a group of 6, she was pretty much my only friend at hhs. We would go off campus together at lunch (our class was the last allowed off campus).

We lost touch after I moved to CO.

Thanks to a classmate site, we hooked up again

There is a street where I live that I hate. I remember pulling off to that side street to talk to stacey about spouse and his a. This was 5 yrs ago. Now instead of the street being tainted by memories of spouse, it holds sweet memories of stacy....it was yet another time she offered to send me a cast iron skillet to whack spouse upside the head with (and everyone of those skillets now in my house have always reminded me of stac and always will).

She kept her distance from me these last few years. She didnt totally push me away as she kept me as a fbf friend and once in awhile commented on my photo or post.

The other thing about stacy was during the affair, she did want me to leave him, but she made the situation about me. She made me laugh. She didnt get angry and say I should leave. She was different

Anyway...I tried several times to thank her for what she did for me during those years. I tried telling her how wonderful she was. I hope she understood.

Stacy, girl, I love you to pieces. I hope I can get my crap together to make you proud.

She went into the hospital with an infection. The meds sent her into a coma. They were going to operate on the infected part. Her heart gave out

She leaves behind her dog and many, many people who loved her.


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Sully)))

I'm sorry you lost your friend


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. That's a huge loss. Prayers for her family and for you.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry you lost your friend. (((Hugs))


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. ((((HUGS)))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8713 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Sully))))

That is a lovely tribute to a true friend. I am so sorry for your loss.

((((and peace and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 14 & 16
Married for 21 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, sully. Carry those memories with you like a lamp in the darkness.


I promise to surround myself with amazing souls and love them fiercely.

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Lostandpregnant
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss :(


He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.

Posts: 354 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very sorry for your loss sully.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you (((HUGS))) and strength to get through this difficult time.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day's, listed in profile)


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((sully))))


happiness is a direction, not a place.

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry for your loss, sully.

My condolences.


AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, so sorry Sully. Loss of a good friend is incredibly hard... I even have found it more difficult than the loss of my beloved grandparents.

I lost my own Stacy (seriously - the same name) in August at age 40 to breast cancer. She was my best friend for 20+ years.

My thoughts will be with you during this difficult time. It sounds like you have some awesome memories of her... write them down. Doing so will give you comfort now, and you will enjoy them with a warm heart through the tears when you reread them in the future.

(((Sully)))


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. That must be such a shock! From an infection to a coma and out in a short time. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you had someone good in your life. ((((SM)))))


Here's to A New Life of Excellent Health, Financial Abundance, Nature's Beauty, Amazing Art and Personal Creativity, with Love, Beauty and Peace All Around Us.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((sully)))

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lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Sully)))


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((sully)) and so unexpected! I'm so sorry.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 47
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

“Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace."


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry for your loss.


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was a wonderful tribute - I am so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace, Stacy.


Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1688 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
ruby44
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a rockin great friend. Hugs to you Sully. Hope that someday I can be a "stacy" to someone in need.
Just remember to pay it forward in her honor.


Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home. We are slowly working toward that but are still

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