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SabbyKat
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

went up to SO work and told everyone what he did.This my fault according to SO because I called her a unpleasant name on Facebook.

Posts: 32 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Michigan
whattheh
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No not your fault at all. Your WH set everything in motion.

[This message edited by whattheh at 12:22 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]


BW- mid 50's (me)
fWH-late 50's
M 33 T 35
DD-Early 2013 cheated after 32 years of M
In R but I have PTSD...

Posts: 403 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If your SO hadn't slept with her, she'd have no ammo to use against him.
This isn't your fault. It is a consequence of his actions and the OW's actions.


Me - 41
My Rockstar (Hubs #2) - 46, faithful, & an absolute doll!
DD(20) and DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs and 2 Cats)

The Cheater:
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Married 18yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 5499 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: United States
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's responsible for his choices. He chose to cheat. He chose to crap where he eats. He chose of bitch of an OW.

If you chose to react by leaving, by going postal on both of them or by taking out a billboard, those would be your choices. Stemming from his choices, but still responses are your choice.

You're responsible for your choices. You called a spade a spade. End of story. Like how you choose to respond, how OW chose to respond is not your fault. She could've accepted it graciously as the truth and the pain talking. She could've owned her choices. She could've blocked you.

She chose to out the A...the A she was an equal perpetrator in. Not your fault. Had they not cheated there would be nothing to tattle about.

Looks like SO needs to own his choices more and lay blame for OWs actions on her doorstep.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

❣Your soulmate is the person who helps grow your soul into a better being rather than tearing it down❣


Posts: 10868 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Limbo
Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This my fault according to SO because I called her a unpleasant name on Facebook.

Response: "If you hadn't cheated, there'd be nothing to tell."


Me: BS
Him: FWS
3 kids

DD#1: 3/18/2003
DD#2: 9/28/2010 with a follow up on 1/28/2011 where he decided to come clean about the EA actually being a PA.

The OW could have been anybody and both turned out to be nobody special.


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