Our kids are older but haven't said anything but they know. My 19 yr old son sent me flowers at work today.... They know! Like I needed another reason to cry!!!! It was heart wrenching to know that he could see my devastation - I know they are going to start asking questions soon. I'm trying to prepare for that. I want to be able to carry on a conversation with them WHEN they ask without crying like a blubbering fool.
I am reading the Not Just Friends book- most of what I've read so far could have been taken right from our conversations! I'm just not sure about my step here. I go Wednesday for std testing, working on financial things, and have names of lawyers- just getting the nerve up to call and get a consult appointment! I am in IC but he has declined MC. So what's next?
"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Until he takes responsibility for his choice to have an affair rather than work on the marriage, the other bedroom is where you should stay. Read in the healing library. There are resources there to help you deal with things.
It was very sweet of your son to send you flowers. I remember when I found out about my husband's first affair. My sister send me a beautiful flower arrangement unsigned. I didn't know who sent it and drove myself mad. I didn't know if someone was toying with me or my husband was trying to be thoughtful or what. When I mentioned it to my sister, she apologized and told me she thought I would know they were from her. Sometimes the most thoughtful gestures can send us over the edge. Your son's heart is in the right place.
Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it.
He's has just let me know he will be spending Thanksgiving at our lake house. Looks like it will be a table for 2 here. Me and my 15 yr old daughter. We will be doing a post Thanksgiving on Sunday with all 4 kids and spouses/girlfriends. He will be back for that. Also suggested we talk about rest of holiday season. Communication is not his strong suit-so we will see.
its inappropriate for us to talk about that
Translation = I'm an ass and I can't admit it to you.
It's inappropriate to have an A...guess he doesn't get that. SMH.
Bitch boots & 180 sweetie. I don't know your sitch about you kicking him out, but if you are able, I would do it in a heartbeat. Hefty bag his shit and tell him to go to fantasyland.
I'm so sorry...big hugs...
I just want to let you know that you will get through this. I know when I was as close in as you are, I thought that my life was over and that I'd never find happiness again.
But take the advice here, start focusing on yourself, do the 180, etc. It's tough, but you are strong and you will get through this.
Make Thanksgiving with your 15 year old the best dinner of the year so far!
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo