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Urcranky
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What?  Posted: 7:31 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it normal for the WS to hold back on giving his partner intimacy? I have forgiven him. He does nothing except hold me. He was very remorseful and sincere in his apology. I am doing very well otherwise...still hurts, trying to get past it. It does bother me that he won't touch me. Isn't it usually the BS who won't show intimacy? Very confused....is it me?

Posts: 2 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
devasted30
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi - it depends on the guilt and remorse of the spouse. My WS had a very difficult time with intimacy for so many reasons. Guilt and remorse as well as not knowing how I would react etc. There are so many reasons why - he has trouble with ED as well which has been brought on by the guilt over his conduct. I'm not sure how long it's been for you since DDay - but, we are just really starting to "make love" and it's been over 10 months. This takes time - we are not there yet, but I'm hopeful.


And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1318 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
Urcranky
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you devasted30...its been about 10 weeks since DDAy. Not long I know. I am being supportive...not married to this man. I was very clear on the no other partners during the 3 years we have been seeing each other. He does have a lot of quilt and I have a lot of hurt...maybe I am expecting too much from him. I am hopeful to :)

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Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine was withholding intimacy but it was for reasons other than guilt, he was still in the A but whatever the reason, it doesn't feel good. The time you need it most, you aren't getting it.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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