Our relationship is so incredibly good. MC says you MUST go forward, and focus on our new relationship. Yes there will be down times/triggers off and on, but try to see it for what it is and try not to dwell on negatives. Before I would have told her she's crazy, but not anymore. Our marriage is so different and so good. I'm in-love with my husband and believe I can get through anything.
I hope I'm not being naive, but I'm optimistic for the first time since this whole thing started.
Default Posted: 12:11 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2008 View P
Now we are on what I call maintenance. Keep being honest, talk when we need to talk, go out of our way to make he other feel as if they are number one.
We are still working through small issues and are REALLY focused on pre A stuff right now.
We have a lot to sort through- because most of our issues were that we always pretended like we didn't have any.
But we are in a good place to do this- ad we both have our goal in mind. If it helps is reach our goal, we talk about it.
Good luck to you and enjoy your happy :) you deserve some.
We have been here before and crashed- but each crash is getting smaller and a little easier to deal with.
So true, as we're finally able to communicate in a new way and actually discuss things as they come up in a productive manner that serves to enhance our M.
I know there will be more crashes, but I'm trying like hell NOT to crash. When I think of negative stuff, I just go do something else and try not to go down again. I'm happy for all of us, and so happy to have not thrown my WH out of the house, and give myself time to sort through my emotions. It's a first for me!
Before we would be mad at each other for a couple of days.
Us too! In the "old marriage" that is. I like this "new marriage" so much better, well, we both do.