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User Topic: What are you thankful for?
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chocolate.
Red wine.
Green trees.
Constellations.
Knowledge.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2013
LivinginLimbo
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Member # 35004
Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thankful that our children don't know what happened and that FWH now realizes what he risked.

I'm thankful for the counselor we found.

Most of all, I'm thankful for Grey Goose vodka Cosmopolitans.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 993 | Registered: Mar 2012
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Member # 40769
Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thankful for

My two wonderfully awesome children who bring joy to me just by being there. We definitely did something right.

SI - words cannot express how much this place and the incredibly generous people here have helped me through this nightmare.

My husband- who is out of the fog and working so hard on himself and on being a better person for both of us.

Hope. It keeps me going.

Edited because my iPhone has crazy autocorrect.

[This message edited by TheAmazingWondertwin at 4:30 PM, November 25th (Monday)]


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 470 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My list for what I am grateful is too long to list. I am blessed in many ways. All is not perfect, but I now to find the beauty in that imperfection. Took me a long time to get here, lol.

I also had a really great yoga class at lunch. Can you tell?


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6274 | Registered: Jan 2011
bionicgal
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Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thankful that I am leaving to meet my wonderful H in Amsterdam with our son tomorrow!

I am thankful that we are all reasonably healthy, (knock on wood).

I am also thankful my H had a little "procedure" recently, and that we'll be reaping the benefits of that soon.

And finally, I am grateful that while my H went off his ever-loving rocker this year, it seems to have been temporary, and that it looks like we may emerge out of this even stronger.

[This message edited by bionicgal at 5:18 PM, November 25th (Monday)]


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1738 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Reegz
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Member # 40391
Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm thankful for this thread. I'm about to post a some what difficult/negative post and I need to remember that there are things that I should be grateful for.

1. My friends and family for their support in this time of need. Not just in regards to the discovery of my WW's Affair, but for me in unemployment and struggle to find a decent job.

2. I'm thankful for my children. Who don't know because one is a toddler and the other is soon to be 5. Their enthusiasm for love and life is unmatched and reminds me of the joys of life despite my own malaise.

3. I'm thankful my wife is willing to work on these issues to reconcile my family. I'm not sure if it will happen, but if it doesn't, I'll know that I did my best to make it happen. No shame and no regrets.

4. I'm thankful for the counselor we found.

5. I'm thankful that the year is coming to a close. Easily the worst year of my life. I'm doing what I can to rebound from this bottom.


Me: 40 BH
Her: 36 WW
Clues Discovered - EA - May/June 2013.
D-Day - Confirmation of EA and discovery of PA - August 20, 2013.
4 to 5 month affair.
We are in recovery. Taking it a day a time.

Posts: 45 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: New York
StormyPrincess
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Member # 41224
Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thankful for:
1) SI and all of you
2) That I think we are already in R and hope it
isn't false R
3) My family.

Hoping you all have a decent week. I'm getting there.


StormyPrincess
Me: BW 47
Him: WS 40 (Had EA with COW...less than 3 months in duration), NC in place.
Married: 17+ yrs; together 19+years
2 DD's; 1 DS; 1 crazy dog
R: Working on it with all we've got

Posts: 31 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
catlover50
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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lovely post!

I'm thankful that right now my H is patiently giving directions to my parents to go pick up our daughter tomorrow from college while our son writes a college paper.

(You'd have to know us to realize how amazing that all is!)

And we'll all be together tomorrow night, with my H the happiest and most at peace I've ever seen him and our M the rock upon which we are building our new lives.

And I'm currently eating chocolate!

Eta--and of course SI

[This message edited by catlover50 at 6:37 PM, November 25th (Monday)]



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1698 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
heforgotme
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Member # 38391
Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

-Geez, I forgot to buy a turkey..

ROFLOL!

Speaking of, everybody make sure to take them out to defrost today.....


D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

Posts: 1064 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: FL
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Speaking of, everybody make sure to take them out to defrost today.....

It's in the brine!!!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6274 | Registered: Jan 2011
Skan
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thankful for the god-awful, heated arguments that we now have. While unsettling, they speak of two passionate people who are invested in Getting To The Bottom Of X, vice just letting it slide and fester and stagnate.

I am thankful to be leaving to travel through horrible weather, overstuffed airplanes, and crowded trains to go to the opposite coast to visit my FWHs relatives for Thanksgiving. Three days after we made these reservations, we separated. I was not sure if I would ever see them again.

I am thankful for my OCD, pulling her hair out, overly stressed boss who drove me crazy today. She is also the person who let me cry in my office, take a break to walk to the sea when I was weak, and ignored my swollen eyes for months on end when I couldn't talk about it.

I am thankful for my MC who taught us to talk to each other again in a way that was not surface only.

I am thankful for Retrouvaille who taught us to explore each other's feelings and try to understand them at least one time every day.

I am thankful that my FWH, even in the midst of screwing up tremendously, always realized that he would never have someone better than me, and who kept coming back when I tried to drive him away.

I am thankful that grace allows me to continue to keep trying for the marriage that I want, even when my pride goes splat.

I am thankful for every person here at SI. Even if I don't agree with you, you offer support, a willing ear, and a different viewpoint to reflect upon.

I am very grateful for the Menz in the Betrayed Men's Forum. When I need a laugh, or a dose of reality, or testosterone, I lurk there. Pay No Attention To The Person Behind The Curtain!

I am grateful for life. And milk chocolate, which makes life SO much more tasty!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4544 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
TimeToManUp
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Member # 37538
Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thankful that I have not been kicked out of our home.

I am thankful that deep down, somewhere, I know my BW still loves me.

I am thankful for my beautiful daughters.

I am thankful to still live a comfortable life, strife-filled as it currently is.

I am thankful to have a job that provided me the ability to buy an XBoxOne and PS4 with cash.

I am NOT thankful that I have not had the time to play either of them yet, however I AM thankful to have grown enough to know that there are more important things than video games.

I am thankful for coworkers who keep a lookout for COW and give me a heads up when I should avoid a particular room or hallway.

I am thankful to still be able to play hockey at my advanced age of 33.

I am thankful that BW continues to stick with me.
I am thankful for Reel Big Fish’s Greatest Hits, because that CD has gotten me through a lot of dark days.


I know we're worth it.
WH (Me-33)
BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

Posts: 227 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: New Jersey
PinkJeepLady
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Member # 37575
Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am normally a very positive, upbeat person and I believe in trying to find things to be thankful for each day. I am grateful and thankful for many things in my life. My amazing children and grandkids being at the top of the list. WH used to be at the top, not so sure about that anymore.
However, during this past year on some days the only things I can think of are - the sun is shining and that air is going in and out of my lungs - period.
I am thankful today that I learned at an early age survival coping skills that have helped me survive many tragedies in my life. I am thankful that I was able to use those tools to help survive this infidelity tragedy as well. Whether we R successfully or not, I am thankful to know in my heart that I WILL SURVIVE!
I am also deeply thankful for all of you beautiful people here who support me and enrich my life with your wise words. I am thankful for YOUR courage and strength to not only share your stories, but to reach out and lift up others who are struggling.
Happy Thanksgiving to ALL, may we enjoy a day of peace with those we love!


Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
R-ing
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 470 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
0115
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Member # 31740
Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In addition to God and family, I'm so thankful to SI, Mangled Heart and Deeply Scared for starting this site and especially Sins of the Father who walked with me through hell and saw me through to the other side. Also to NJgal who showed me that it could be done (even with an LTA) and the JFO angels...the most compassionate people on the face of the earth.

I'm thankful for all of you

ETA...yep I'm not 47 anymore...why change it now

[This message edited by 0115 at 10:29 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]


BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.

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