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User Topic: Lost our baby yorkie
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((jb & family)))
I am so sorry for your loss.


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 14900 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
jb3199
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks again, everyone.

Believe me, the "strong" front is just for the kids. My younger one is grieving in his own way, and we encourage it. My older boy is autistic, and although he doesn't process things the same way that you and I do, he is still upset, and grieving...at least that is my interpretation.

As for my wife, she powers through the day, and collapses from exhaustion back at our room. I know that she can function these next 4-5 days---it is when we are heading home is when I will really start to worry. She freely admits that she is not sure how she will handle herself emotionally once *normal* life resumes.

As for me, don't worry---I am grieving. I am not sleeping much, and as soon as everyone falls asleep at night, I cry like a damn baby for what seems an eternity. I just thought that I would run out of tears by now.

Not the most macho, but I can give two shits less about that. I am comfortable enough in my own skin to have a soft heart for animals. They are just so damn innocent compared to humans. They love us for who we are, and the more love that we give them, the more they reciprocate. And that is what makes it so hard with Sophia. She was so loving. She was flawless---because my wife and I loved every idiosyncrasy about her. We learned more about her all the time, as she grew, and loved her that much more.

I've got to stop rambling. I could go on for hours, but just know that I miss her dearly. And I hurt for my wife and children. Like infidelity, there is no shortcut through this. It has to be processed, dealt with, and moved forward from.

I just wish that time would speed up a little.


BH-46
WW-44
2 boys-17 & 19(special needs)
Married 21yrs.(together 26yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D


Posts: 1866 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: northeast
erzulie
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Helpless  Posted: 11:00 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, jb, your story has me sitting here at my computer sobbing myself.

What a sad and awful thing to experience. We bond so closely with our animals - they offer us the kind of unconditional love we so rarely find in other humans. Losing that bond and the pet who provided that love is one of the greatest losses anyone can ever endure.

I have no words to take away what's happened. Time does heal all, but that doesn't placate the pain you are in right now. I hope that there is some consolation, at least, in sharing that pain together, you and your family. There is no shame in demonstrating the heartache of loss to anyone. If anything, being able to share how much you are hurting may provide someone else the "permission" to share how they feel as well.

Sending you hugs and warm thoughts. One thing I know for certain; all dogs go to Heaven.


A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.


Posts: 3375 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: California
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((jb&family)))) I have no words...just hugs. I am so sorry!
Prayers and more prayers of strength for you and your whole family!

Posts: 2474 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((jb3199 & family)))

How devastating. Sending big hugs to all.


For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

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