I'm hoping she will become a Gertrude, like sailorgirls post.
Yes, perhaps this is worth trying - to think of OW as just someone in the past, before me.. sigh...
And to LA sorry!
ps: your post scared me bc I thought he confessed to another infidelity.
At 5 years out, I can say Yah my H F'd another woman, and he also wore braces, and he likes steak. It's just part of who he is. This thing happened, and as horrible as it is, it also brought about a big change, and forced him to really work on who he was as a person.
So yah he F'd her, but he didn't love her, he didn't want to have babies with her, and he certainly didn't want to spend the rest of his life with her. For those things he chose me....
He is one lucky man.