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User Topic: Omg WS f***ed someone else!
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Question  Posted: 5:46 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah. Me too. But I can't see her face. On her escort website (yes, such a thing, e-commerce for whores...), he face is blurred out. I want to know what her face looks like... Every bleached blonde makes me trigger... "Is it HER?" Plus... My mind movies aren't complete. I feel like if i get every piece of the puzzle, they'll stop.

Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2286 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm hoping she will become a Gertrude, like sailorgirls post.

Yes, perhaps this is worth trying - to think of OW as just someone in the past, before me.. sigh...

And to LA sorry!

ps: your post scared me bc I thought he confessed to another infidelity.
- yeah - I can see what you mean! When I wrote this it was exactly as I was feeling, like it had just hit me again - and didn't want to say it to poor H with his throbbing thumb! lol but once it was up there in black and white and I re-looked at it as a title, I could see how it might be very misleading!!

Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.

Posts: 153 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Isn't it strange how you can be thinking of the A nearly 24/7 but still you get blindsided by that reality and it completely destroys you as if you just figured that out? That thought kept hitting me, hard, over and over again last week. I think because we've begun A season.

D-day #1 - 1/23/13
false R, then...
D-day #2 - 3/26/13
I will come for the benefit of the sick, remaining free of all intentional injustice, of all mischief and in particular of sexual relations with both female and male persons. - Hippocratic Oath

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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think as you heal there comes a certain level of acceptance and when that happens you can look at it, and not let it rock your world.

At 5 years out, I can say Yah my H F'd another woman, and he also wore braces, and he likes steak. It's just part of who he is. This thing happened, and as horrible as it is, it also brought about a big change, and forced him to really work on who he was as a person.

So yah he F'd her, but he didn't love her, he didn't want to have babies with her, and he certainly didn't want to spend the rest of his life with her. For those things he chose me....
He is one lucky man.

Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well it completely throws me off. I can't be I intimate with him anymore. I. Force myself to hug him often because he says he needs it. I think to myself " what about all those years I needed affection and you just ignored me". I guess I hate that they can be so selfish and disregard what our needs were for theirs and now we still need to cater to them. I have been in a dump so I'm just not a happy camper..

Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. I totally have those moments..almost everyday still in some fashion.

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WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

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