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rainagain
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Gahurts)))))


Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
Me: Divorced BS 49
DS22, DD19, DS17

Posts: 1291 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((gahurts)))

Saying prayers.


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((gahurts)))

This must be excruciating for you! Sending good thoughts and prayers!


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gahurts, I am so sorry you're in this situation. My sister is facing something similar with her 16 yo. Praying for the best possible outcome, whatever that turns out to be.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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sadcat
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((gahurts and son))))

Our kids can just skewer us right through the heart (with a detour through the gut), can't they?

I hope your son can turn himself around and that he is given the chance to do so. Keep us posted.


I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.

If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 4:20 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much everyone. I am so touched by the support I've received here. The hearing is at 9:30. I'll update everyone when we get back this afternoon.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3337 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 4:24 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just wondering if you were up. I remember these mornings, they were always so hard.

You are both in my thoughts.

Good luck. I really hope it goes well!


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3775 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So we got a temporary reprieve and maybe a little hope.

Before the hearing started, our L met with the prosecutor and they started talking about the case. From where I sat I heard the prosecutor comment that he really should have learned more about this case and they started discussing a waiver.

We learned that the original ADA was on maternity leave, which explains why she wasn't returning our L's calls. This new guy is apparently taking over all her cases so that means he has a pile that he likely just wants to get through.

We signed a form waiving the arraignment. This buys the Ls time to work out a deal. The prosecutor seemed to be resonable and was willing to work something out. He asked our L to e-mail him the details and they would start talking.

Our L is trying to work out a decent deal even if it requires some amount of jail time. Then he can start fresh once the probation is finished.

I learned today that DS did make a contact at St. Vincent de Paul to do his community service. he did this without my intervening which I think is a good thing. I see it as something he somehow got done on his own. So now he has to get his hours set up so that he can get it done and L suggested to do more volunteer work if he could. He is also applying to quite a few jobs, doing well on his AA meeting attendence and is talking about starting school. All of these are steps in the right direction.

As slowly as the justice system seems to work, I am hoping that this means that things will stay quiet through the holidays and we can pick it back up again in the new year.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is good news. I hope you can breathe through the rest of the month.

Keep us posted for the next time.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everything sounds like it's headed in the right direction!

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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's good news! And it sounds like your ds is taking this seriously and trying to fix his issues :) I'll keep you in my prayers, this parenting thing is not for sissies :)


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 859 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's very positive news, and good to hear. And kudos to DS for taking the initiative in setting up his community service.

I hope he listens to the L and does even more volunteering (unless he gets a job) - it sounds like there is a little time to convince the prosecutor that he's going on the right path already.

Sending continued mojo and strength your way.

((((gahurts & DS))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2538 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy that it went this way. You can take a breath for now. Hugs.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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