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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pulled out all my Christmas decorations. Started putting things out.

Opened a storage bin...nooooooo!

A candle fell out of its container. Probably when it was put in the attic. I already know! "You shouldn't have put a candle in the attic." I know. Well, it was 5,000F this summer. Candle wax melted all over heirloom decorations.

As if I'm not having a hard enough time, lets just pile it on right? Ruin a few irreplaceable items I inherited from my deceased grandmothers. I calmly walked into the laundry room with the items, closed the door, and fell apart. Just...why!?

Does anyone have any idea how I can get colored candle wax out of fabric items? I mean, the wax has completely saturated them. They're crunchy when you aqueeze them.

They're these little pillow-y things my great-grandmother used to hang on random doors throughout her house every year. They aren't the prettiest things in the world, but they were hers. And I don't want to loose them.

Any ideas would be appreciated.


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awww...I know what's it's like to love having Nana's things. Can you lay several layers of paper towel on them and press them with a hot iron? That will remove candle wax, but if it's coloured, the dye may still remain after the wax is gone. If it's not a flat item, this might be difficult to do.

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 12:38 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]


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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That completely stinks, Aubrie! But fear not... I think there is a solution.

I second the idea to iron them. First, scrape off as much wax as you can with a butter knife. Then use an old kitchen towel and an iron on medium heat. You may have to use several towels and iron several times. The colored dye will likely remain after the wax is removed. Buy a dry cleaning solvent or even try good old AquaNet hairspray. Then wash with color-safe bleach. Air dry instead of sticking the in the dryer, as that will cause the stain to set. May have to repeat a few times.

I had an issue with a box of crayons that melted all over a shirt in my car. The ironing definitely took out the wax, and the cleaning solvent that came with my Dryell package took out the color stain.

Good luck with this!

[This message edited by stroppy_wanadoo at 2:59 PM, November 22nd (Friday)]


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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If an iron doesn't work a hair dryer will also work. Get some oxyclean, too! I hope something works!


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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think I would try freezing them, that way the wax will become brittle and should chip off easier,


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the suggestions y'all. My heart is broken. I'm too stressed about it to try anything yet.

I'm pretty sure the pillows are goners. I'm going to speak to my dry cleaner about the table runner. They may be able to save it. If not, I think I'll probably cut out a part that's not destroyed and frame it.


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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I second the ideas of freezing first to get rid of the thickest parts, then ironing on as low a setting as possible. Don't give up yet. Don't give up yet for me, okay? I lost my great-grandmother's hand-sewn quilt that was pieced together from clothing items of family members long ago, thanks to EX's cruelty & carelessness. I still haven't come to terms with it because it was a deliberate destruction. So will you please try on these items for me? Will you please even maybe contact a local historical center/society & talk to them about this? There are people who restore items from much worse fates than candle wax.


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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I want to get the wax out of a votive I stick it in the freezer and the wax comes right out. I say try the freezer.


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Default  Posted: 6:13 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aubrie,
The iron WILL WORK to get the candle wax out. And it will likely take out the color too.

I had one of those huge three wick candles on a small table burning in my living room. Well, I didn't realize one "wick" went out and it burned uneven until one side of the candle (cranberry red) broke open and spilled all over my almost white carpeting. O-M-G!!!

I did the iron trick.

You place and old towel or rag between the item with the wax and the iron. Then apply the hot iron to the towel or rag. The heat will go through the rag and melt the wax from your treasured item, drawing it up into the rag, gently removing it from your treasured item. As the rag becomes saturated with wax, get a clean rag and continue.

Go slowly. This will work. The key is drawing the wax out of the fabric threads. And this is the only way to do it with out applying the heat directly to your treasured item.


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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aubrie, My process engineering is kicking in here. I think you got some really good ideas here.

You might want to consider.

1. Freeze everything to make the wax brittle so that the big chuncks will break off and maybe even peel off the fabric. I would recommend getting dry ice if you can find it - I know some Wal-marts carry it, there may be other places too. That will get the wax super brittle. Be careful that you wear gloves so that you don't burn (freeze) your hands from the dry ice.

2. Let the fabric heat back up to room temperature on its own so that you don't thermally shock it.

3. Then get a towel and an iron and use the iron to heat the fabric and draw the way out into the towel the way sadtoo suggests or with a blow dryer on the pillows like TCD said. I think if there is a lot of wax on it then it will just become a gooey mess when you try to heat it up so get the bulk of the wax off first to make it easier.

4. If there is any stain after all of this maybe you can take it to a good dry cleaners and get them to look at it.

Good luck. Just take your time and don't try to rush it. I know these items have deep meaning for you.


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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did you have any luck?


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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've used an warm iron over paper bags and it worked well too. The bag soaks up the warm wax.

Sometimes the color is left behind (depending on how pigmented the wax was), but you can check with your dry cleaner to see if they can help with it.


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did you have any luck?

I put them in the freezer last night.

Trying to get up the nerve to start the iron process today.

Will take before/after pics.


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Aubrie
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Exclaimation  Posted: 12:10 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Update! Been working furiously for the past hour.

One item had no change. Took before and after pics. Pointless as there was no improvement.

Another item (Table runner) seemed to actually get worse.
Before:

After:

The stain is actually more vibrant in the after phase. Worst case scenario, if I can't get the cleaners to do anything with it, I'll cut out one of the designs at the other end of the runner and frame it.

This last item has the greatest improvement. Was completely saturated in wax. It was a little reindeer brick. The color is still off, but it's wayyyy better than what it was.

Before:

After:

And for the record, I said they were heirlooms. Not that they were necessarily "pretty".


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You could try diluting some bleach 1-4 with water and apply to a small portion of the stained part with an eye dropper to see if it removes the dye. Maybe use a small toothbrush to work in the bleach. Don't get the bleach too close to your coloured design. Rinse with a paper towel soaked in cool water and blot up the excess.

The little reindeer square looks a lot better.

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 12:39 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would say keep working on the runner, with a towel in between, if the color is more vibrant it's getting pulled to the surface more.

That runner is still out there too. If you hit a few thrift shops, or even Craigslist, you may be able to replace it. I know cause my momma has the whole tablecloth that looks just like it!!!!!


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Shocked  Posted: 1:07 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I don't have an answer for you...but if it makes you feel any better. I put an old ivory cherub rare winding clock up on a shelf in my livingroom while I was preggo with my daughter and left to go grocery shopping only to come back and find that it was too heavy for the shelf and had knocked the shelf down....and broken into a BILLION pieces! I broke down into tears immediately. My dad still has the remains.....and "says" he can fix it... but I don't see how....

I was devastated!


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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A quick search brought up a couple of other things you can try too:

- On colorfast fabrics, white cotton, or linen, try pouring boiling water through the stain.

I doubt you could do this with the pillow-type ornament, but I would try it on the runner. If you have a (plastic) embroidery hoop, try using that to stretch out the area where the stain is first - pouring the water through would likely work better that way. If you don't have an embroidery hoop, just try to stretch it over something like a bowl maybe.

- After using either method, allow to dry. If any trace remains, flush with a stain-removing agent, such as Afta Cleaning Fluid.

I'd never heard of Afta, but it's evidently a dry cleaning solution, so getting help from a dry cleaners would be a good bet. Other cleaners to try at home: (as someone said earlier) Oxyclean, Goo Gone, RIT stain remover (NOT the dye remover - that could take out the original dye!)

- If any dye remains, sponge it with 1 part rubbing alcohol (do not use on acrylic or modacrylic fabric) mixed with 2 parts water. Rinse well with clear water and dry.


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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A combination of water, baking soda and vinegar might help remove some of the stain. There are recipes online for the mixture.


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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

20 mule team borax. Mix with water to a paste and use old toothbrush to apply directly. Let sit 30 minutes then soak for a couple of hours in kitchen sink with warm water and 1/4 cup dishwasher detergent. If color is fading, soak longer or repeat process. This saved a shirt of H.


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