Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.
..sounded typical of so many stories here on SI
..WH became cold and detached.. was with other women.
..his wife felt, after 10 months of his total detachment that she would try O>L>D>, met lawrence,, spent the week with him
..WH finds out and does complete turn-around.. wants his M and family back, says his new love and desire for wife is 10x what it was and is willing to give her anything for a second chance
..she doesn't trust him anymore and worries that his about-face is only because another man has now shown great interest in his wife.
Dr. Phil's analogy of the old dog with a bone that he hasn't chewed on for months suddenly sees another dog go for it, suddenly has a need to reclaim his bone.
..wife is afraid that as soon as Lawrence is out of the picture, WH will go back to ignoring his wife of 33 years.
..Dr. Phil is sending them to MC.
rather stereotypical MLC story I thought.
Yes, the wife was truly shocked. She said, and husband agreed, they had a very connected marriage. He adored the ground she walked on. They took a bath together Every. Single. Day. He made sure he kissed her every day.
He had left and moved out. He told her to move on with her life, that he had moved on and she needed to, also. So, after 10 months of him asking/telling her he wanted a divorce she starts dating from an online dating site.
This can get to be a heated discussion here on when and if you are separated and heading for divorce should you date. I don't blame the wife for "moving on". For me, it would be way too soon and I agree with Dr. Phil about finishing up your "emotions" from your marriage/relationship before starting a new one.
I'll have to look in the show's archive to watch the whole show because I found it very interesting that they both agree their marriage was "picture perfect".
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
My question is, is this "Lawrence" really an OM if she started dating him 10 months after her H had moved out and filed for divorce?
My XH started "dating" my xBFF probably within 10 days of me moving out after discovering my A. I don't consider her his "OW."
I will be interested to watch this episode tomorrow.
[This message edited by heartbroken0903 at 8:38 PM, November 21st (Thursday)]
Married 2.5 years
Reconciling after divorce