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User Topic: Holiday Traditions?
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanksgiving (2nd Monday in October):
We held our 7th annual H family get together at our home in rural small town Ontario. We plan to continue as long as we live here.We do this on the Saturday of the long weekend, so that relatives can plan their own Sunday/Monday celebrations. For most family, it's a 2 hour plus drive. But we're worth the drive!!! Fortunately, the weather has been very co-operative all 7 times, with 32+ people (from teenagers to seniors) socializing outside and on the deck, only coming inside to fill their buffet plates.

Christmas:
H and I have watched A Christmas Carol (1951 version with Alastair Sim) on TV almost every Christmas Eve since 1967. One year it wasn't scheduled so I bought a used video copy. If it's not on the 24th this year, we have the VCR....
On Christmas Day or Boxing Day we celebrate with H family at one of their homes. Again, a huge crowd!


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dameia
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honestly, we have so many Christmas traditions I couldn't possibly list them all. So here is one...

This is DS8's favorite:

We walk around the neighborhood to look at our neighbors Christmas lights, then get in the car to drive around and look at Christmas displays in other neighborhoods. Then we come home, get in our jammies, make hot chocolate, and watch How the Grinch Stole Christmas (the original, not the Jim Carrey one).

And while I was typing that my mind wandered to NYE. Now that the kids are a little older they are excited about staying up until midnight. So we start the evening with make your own pizzas, and then later on we make your own sundaes. We play games and watch a movie until 11:45 or so, then watch the ball drop in Times Square.

Its fun reading about everyone's traditions, maybe we'll incorporate them into our celebrations this year!


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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I forgot to post our favorite one!

I keep a small tree in another part of the room. I place one small gift for each person there. This is the evening tree. After all the hubbub of the day, all the gifts, there can be that "let down." So at night, after dessert, there is always one more small gift left to open.

My grandmother used to do this for all the grandkids and it was often the most exciting part of the whole day. Waiting waiting waiting until it was time for the evening tree.

Wait! I have another! LOL Jammie day. Dec. 27 is jammie day. Nobody gets dressed. Nobody does anything. We hang out and watch movies all day. This year we will be on our way to Vegas on the 27th, so jammie day has officially been postponed til Jan. 1. lol

[This message edited by Rebreather at 1:23 PM, November 22nd (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I keep a small tree in another part of the room. I place one small gift for each person there. This is the evening tree. After all the hubbub of the day, all the gifts, there can be that "let down." So at night, after dessert, there is always one more small gift left to open.
OMG I love this idea!!!


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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We had the car packed with pillows and blankets for the kids. I ran into a couple shops while QS stayed with the kids. Once they were good and awake, they went in and shopped with us. They loved shopping in their jammies and house shoes. They begged to do it again this year.
Aubrie, your kids are going to have such fun memories to look back on! 😃

We drive around and look at Christmas lights in the neighborhood and everyone is required to say either, "Oooh, pretty!" or "Eeew, tacky!" My dd 21 was able to distinguish the truly tacky ones by age 3.


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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I keep a small tree in another part of the room. I place one small gift for each person there. This is the evening tree. After all the hubbub of the day, all the gifts, there can be that "let down." So at night, after dessert, there is always one more small gift left to open.

OMG I love this idea!!!

Meee toooo. I'm stealing this idea.

My dd 21 was able to distinguish the truly tacky ones by age 3.
Oh Gawd, I wish my DD8 would get a clue. If she sees any lights, it's always, "Ooooooo! LIGHTS!" My reaction is to groan and say internally, "DD. Seriously. It looks like the Yard-Sale Leftover Boogie Man threw up in this yard." My child needs to learn the art of Christmas lights. Yes. It's an art.

Last year we drove like freaking 30 minutes to a house that had their lights custom done and had it set to music on the radio. Kinda like the super cool ones you see on Youtube. It. Was. SO. Cool! The kids insisted we do our house that way. Uhhhh, not unless I'm sponsored. Ain't no way I want THAT electric bill!

I went to the craft store this evening. Saw something that brought back a childhood memory. When I was little, we would go to my aunt's for Christmas. We usually got there on like the 21st or something. She would give me a cardboard advent calendar with chocolates in it. I remember thinking it was so super awesome that I could eat 21 days worth of chocolate in one day. Then I was peeved when I only got ONE a day till Christmas.

Anyway, long way around the barn to say, the craft store had the same kind of advent calendars! I picked some up for my kids. I think I may have to go back and get one for me too. Just for old time's sake.


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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We're still trying to figure out how thanksgiving should look. There are no hard and fast traditions, as it was my mother's holiday. I never much liked it---her food and control issues made it unpleasant. But we're trying to redefine it.

Christmas is tradition bound. Having stbx gone has little impact because he did not really participate except at mealtime. We do 3 presents (like Jesus) and stockings. Texas barbecue. And a movie. All non-negotiable. All very relaxed.

Oh- tthe free goes up on my daughter'a birthday (mid-November). And I have a collection of cross-stitched Santa that come out, too. I try to add to them but have not for many years---but just tracked down my favorite pattern book that has about a dozen I want to do.

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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've hosted Thanksgiving for decades, but we've changed things up the past several years. Now it's a holiday I get excited about again, instead of dreading doing all the cooking by myself. DS21 has really gotten into cooking, so he's been helping with our "carb lover's feast." And last year, both my boys, SO and I were all in the kitchen preparing the feast. It was the most fun and relaxing turkey day I've ever had. We're doing it again this year.

As far as Christmas goes, most of my traditions are carry-overs from childhood. But I'm hit or miss with them now, and I doubt my kids will continue with any of them. I've been changing things up since the divorce, trying to find the new normal for Christmas. Don't think I'm there yet.


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