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User Topic: Holiday Traditions?
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What are yours? Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa....whatever you celebrate this Fall/Winter season. What are you traditions?

There are not many traditions that are not tied to my FOO. Holidays with them is not an option at this point in time. I find myself standing before a blank drawing board. Please help with inspiration and share your traditions.

Three of mine:
1. The kids get new jammies on Christmas Eve night. That way they have flashy new ones for pictures on Christmas morning.

2. A beautiful card and letter for QS on Christmas morning. He gives me one too.

3. Unlike Mother, who takes down all the decorations the day after Christmas, we leave ours up till New Years.

Our groundbreaking tradition this year was not waiting till Thanksgiving to listen to Christmas music. I have been waiting for a new Christmas album to drop by a certain artist. It finally did (in Canada) so a friend mailed me a copy. It got here two weeks ago. We've been listening to it every since.

[This message edited by Aubrie at 3:33 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have to get to SIL's house early on Thanksgiving so we can watch the parade and wave to Santa when he arrives. Anyone not yelling, "Hi, Santa!!!" really loud gets scolded.

Also, DD and I always make potato latkes. We will not use a food processor, we peel and grate each one by hand. Pain is part of the process .

We used to do one small gift for each night of Hanukkah but as they got older and their gifts got more expensive we usually do just one big gift.

I put out the cute decorations the kids made over the years at preschool and Hebrew school. Makes me smile.


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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My son and I get new jammies for Christmas too and wear them all day...no matter where we go...

Although not a holiday, we always go to the movies together on Mother's Day.


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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The ordinary ones but ever since my son was 3 we've celebrated the holiday he created. It is called Panchope and it is celebrated the friday after US's Thanksgiving. Originally son said Panchope stood for Big Muffin day so it has been a custom to eat giant muffins for breakfast. Over the years it has evolved into the laying around all day in your PJs and adding multitudes of breakfast meats to eat with the muffins.


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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I can afford the ingredients, my sister and I do a big candy/cookie making day between Thanksgiving and Christmas. Then we give them away as presents.

I always buy a book for each grandchild and inscribe the date and "With Love from Nana" on each one for Christmas. I also get them 1 clothing item and one toy. They have so many Christmas celebrations that they are inundated with toys.

I have a pretty limited budget and I used to get gift cards for my sons and DILs, but they would rather have some spending money. This year I will put 4 envelopes on the tree, one with $20, one with $30, one with $40, and one with $50. Then we will do a contest to see who gets to choose first and so on. It puts a little suspense in the process and everyone gets something that way.

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I LOVE new holiday music, who is it? But I refuse to indulge until after Thanksgiving, preferring to enjoy on holiday at a time. I do know that your Thanksgiving is earlier than ours...
Hanukkah is for my dad, and for the continuation of the rich culture I want my kids to appreciate. When I was little we'd each get a silver dollar for each night. My kids get a golden chocolate orange, but we all say the prayer together when we are home.
We celebrate both Christmas and Hanukkah, but we are not especially religious. We are Quakers, by choice, and put together a bunch of traditions that have suited us. We always did Christmas Eve PJs when the kids were little, Santa left them out so they'd find them when we returned from a Christmas Eve meeting each year :-D . Quakers don't usually sing but we always have Carol sing on Christmas Eve. Breakfast on Christmas morning is just for our family. I hope someday to include wives and grandbabies...I set a casserole to cook the night before. I also have carrot cake, a favorite of DS#2, and some other type muffin. We open stockings while sipping tea or hot chocolate, eat and then open presents. They are coded, each of us have our own color paper. Dinner is either my house or my sister's, everyone pitches in to cook, fWH does the turkey, I do the sides.

The one thing I have learned over the years is to be flexible. Some years we cannot be together on Christmas Eve so we do things the day after. Sometimes I have to buy the sides, or I can only make one or two favorites. If my kids do eventually marry (from these keys to God's eyes lol) scheduling will be all that more difficult. We all know that being together, even if it isn't exactly THAT DAY, is what counts.
This year, Thanksgiving dinner will be on Saturday, but the four of us are having duck on Thursday!

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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I LOVE new holiday music, who is it?
Johnny Reid's "A Christmas Gift to You". He's not really popular in the U.S. but he's kind of a big deal in Canada. He's got an epic Christmas tour going on right now. I would just about kill to go.

I do know that your Thanksgiving is earlier than ours...
I'm in the U.S.

I love reading everyone's stories!!!!

I thought of another one.
Last year was the first year we took the kids Black Friday shopping. (QS and I used to go out late Thursday night but last year, we got up early on Friday instead.) We had the car packed with pillows and blankets for the kids. I ran into a couple shops while QS stayed with the kids. Once they were good and awake, they went in and shopped with us. They loved shopping in their jammies and house shoes. They begged to do it again this year.

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Christmas is my absolute favorite holiday.

When the kids were younger, we'd have a project making a set of ornaments for the Christmas tree. Now, years later, we giggle when we hang the stuffed felt gingerbread men and other handmade ornaments on the tree.
We also leave our tree up until after the New Year.

One tradition we started when my kids became teens is to have a scavenger hunt for their gifts. We put half of their gifts in various hidey holes around the house, then set the first clue under the tree. They then have to figure out the clue in order to find their next gift. The first year we did it, they looked at us like we lost our minds, but were disappointed when we didnt do it the following year. So it has become part of our routine.

Another tradition we do is to watch Christmas movies, starting with Charlie Brown and working our way to Bad Santa.

Now that my kids are pretty much grown and almost out of the house, it is simply a joy to have them at home and spending time with them.
I think this year I'll try to get both kids and hubby into the kitchen to make/decorate some cookies....

ETA:
I forgot to add that I've always let the kids open ONE gift on Christmas Eve.

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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When my kids were young I started doing a treasure hunt for them at Christmas. That is their last gift to find/open. There are ten clues with the first being under the tree. They have to solve the clues to find each successive clue. I give them the ground rules such as there are no clues in my bedroom, etc. As they have grown, I have had to stretch my imagination to make the clues more challenging (and yes, some clues have been in the garage, in my car, inside a toilet tank, etc. ). I have also had to make the last clue split into three so each has an individual final clue to find their personal gift (many of the gifts to them as youngsters was one big gift to all of them...trampoline, etc.). They still look forward to doing it after all these years because it has simply become a tradition so I keep it up for them. And this reminds me, I have to get to work on this year's clues!!

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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And this reminds me, I have to get to work on this year's clues!!
Same here!
Ooooh...inside the toilet tank, eh? I'm stealing that one, LOL!

With regard to Christmas music, one of my personal traditions, I always listen to reggae versions of Christmas music. My stepfather is from the West Indies, so that's what I grew up hearing. It isn't quite Chirstmas for me until I hear steel pan drum-laden Christmas tunes.


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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We do jammies on Christmas Eve too. We open them right before we watch the old version of 'A Christmas Carol' - the one where Alistair Sim plays Scrooge. My mom, sister and I all live in different states (and mom is in a different time zone), but we all have our own DVD copy, set a time and watch it 'together'. We make our husbands and kids watch too (though they are usually less than enchanted). We've watched that movie every Christmas Eve for almost my entire life. Stockings are huge with us and are always overflowing with little goodies and are dumped out well before any gifts are opened on Christmas morning. I think, this year, I am going to offer to make Christmas breakfast. We do all the big holiday meals at my MIL's house, and she does almost all the cooking. She isn't the best cook, so I figure this way I don't take away her limelight and I still get some really delicious food.

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We make a whole day out of getting our tree. Even if we go to the lot and not cut it ourselves in the mountains, it is a ceremony. We have a special dinner and a special dessert I make only once a year.

We also do jammies on Xmas eve, which are left unwrapped on the living room couches when the kids aren't paying attention. When they were little, we'd stomp around and go HO HO HO and they would come running. We'd say, You JUST missed him! Hurry, put these on and let's go to bed! lol

We have the.same.thing. for breakfast every Xmas morning. I keep trying to change it but my kids refuse. Christmas quiche. Every year.

About a week before Xmas, we will load up in the car with hot chocolate and drive around looking at everyone's lights (no cellphones allowed!)


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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I love to read what everyone does!

Thanksgiving;
I always make fresh green beans as one of the side dishes. My daughter and I snap the ends while we watch the Thanksgiving Day Parades in the morning--done this for years--so excited she is a freshman far away at college and coming home after three long months - yay- she said snapping green beans will mean so much more than it ever has before We will have 17 people this year and I can't wait!

Christmas;

Big Christmas Eve party at my in-laws everyone gets all dressed up--then we all come home and sit around the fire and watch A Christmas Story- my fav! Kids head to bed and I do their stockings--even though they are 21 and 18--can't help myself. Christmas morning is relaxing and we just hang out and do stockings and presents and I make breakfast. Then we have a big Christmas dinner that evening at my Mom's for her side of the family. My Mom's husband is Italian so he makes soooo much food and tons of different stuff. Such a good time.

**When my kids were little we did the new p.j.'s on Christmas Eve thing too and I don't take down my trees (yes, I said trees--I put up 2 trees--my husband wants to kill me but I love it) until New Year's Day.

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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Christmas stockings AFTER opening all other presents and after breakfast. Big breakfast Christmas morning and the rest of the day, eat whatever you want all day. As a kid, I would eat cookies all day.

Love this thread!


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Thanksgiving: We invite all of our friends who can't visit family/don't have family to visit to our house for Thanksgiving supper.

Christmas: We do an ugly Christmas sweater party for our friends and family. We buy a real tree every year and we go as a family to pick it out. The kids also get new PJ's on Christmas night. We also read the Christmas story every Christmas eve, before bed.


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I can only speak to the 'old days'

We had our Thanksgiving dinner on the Sunday before because the X always had to work on Thanksgiving Day. On Thanksgiving morning we'd have a big breakfast (the X left for work around noon), then DS & I would go to a movie in the afternoon.

Christmas was pretty loose. Usually the X had to work, but if he was home on Christmas Eve, we always had shrimp scampi and shrimp cocktail. We opened presents Christmas morning, then if the X was working, DS and & would go to a movie again. If he wasn't, we'd have prime rib for dinner.

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Christmas Eve: Oyster stew for us and lasagna for the kids - they each open one gift.
christmas day: A big turkey with all the trimmings.
they clean up.

no family other than the 6 of us and the SIL. I love it that way! I do miss little children being around but I have a feeling in 10 years I could have 10 grandchildren.


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NO Christmas music before Thanksgiving.
Tree and Deco up the day after Thanksgiving.
Fireworks on NYE
Shrimp on NYE
Santa tracks on the carpet from the fireplace on Xmas morning (even with my big lops 16&14), no fire on Xmas eve so Santa doesn't get burned.

Roast Beef Dinner and fixings on Xmas day.


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Aubrie
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We do an ugly Christmas sweater party for our friends and family.
I bought the most Gawd-awful, seizure inducing monstrosity of a sweater 2 years ago for this purpose. Last year my parents hosted the Youth Christmas dinner. Mom asked to borrow the sweater. The youth leader saw her walk thru the room and was like, "Wow, I really like your sweater! That's really nice! Where did you get it?"

People have dared me to wear it to church for our Christmas service. Tempting....I will if they do. We can all walk in with fugly sweaters.


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I loved Lala's daughter's idea for last Christmas. The new baby couldn't be taken to Santa at the mall so they hired a Santa to come to the house. The kids had Santa all to themselves. Their photos were amazing. I'm thinking I might do this for my grandkids.


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