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User Topic: Having a hard time this week.
ladycody
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Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just needed to tell you how sorry I am that you're going through this... :(


Me 47
WS 41
M=16 years

Posts: 130 | Registered: Nov 2013
No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I'm no good at this 180 method. I keep sliding back in my progress. She talked to me last night and I broke down a little. She told me I just need to wait until the separation to see what happens because she no longer feels comfortable in our home. This is the hardest part of my life right now. Knowing that she wants to leave and not knowing if we will get the chance I feel we deserve.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This has been one hell of an emotional roller coaster and it's driving me insane. My IC says it's because of my abandonment issues and I had a feeling he would diagnose me as such.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
meplusfour
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

we will get the chance I feel we deserve

Maybe rephrase your thoughts to "I will give WW the chance to be part of the M that I deserve." Your WW is still thinking primarily about herself. Look at her actions and her words~you are excluding her from spending time with you and the girls, she no longer feels comfortable in your home.

Keep working with 180. It's hard to do, and no one expects it to come easily. Just focus on you and the girls.

You have handled yourself with such dignity during this time. Your daughters could not ask for a better and loving father.


BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

Posts: 361 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
Lostandpregnant
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart just breaks for you. I'm so so sorry.
I have kids as well, and it's so hard to be trying to be strong for them while dying inside and wanting our "partners" to care when they are so..gone.
At least in my case mine just left completely so I don't have to share my house..although I'd give anything most days to have him here.
Watching movies with the kids is an easy way to be close to them and bring yourself comfort. Same with playing simple games like checkers, etc.


He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.

Posts: 354 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the encouragement


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
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