I doubt you would have been good if you didn't divorce...you would have moved on to another affair. Someone did end up truly happy. Your second ex-wife. No you couldn't have loved her when you treated her like that. That is not love.
I hope you have finally learned from this and become a better person.
He also points out that every time he cheated he was sober. He thinks there is a correlation. He thinks an addict creates drama all the time by their actions so when they get sober, there is no more drama.. so they find new drama that doesn't involved substances. He thinks someone in recovery needs counseling as well. The counseling would help them not to transfer the feeling to something else and to see this is a real problem that happens. AA and NA (he said) addresses the abuse, but not the transference. AA people are just people, not counselors. They have no idea how to treat anything but staying away from substance abuse. They look away from everything else.
Don't bother sharing this with your WH. He will use it to hate you more, as he is in the fog himself.
Before everyone puts him on a pedestal for being so brave for posting his story, consider why is he refusing to post it here himself, but allowing someone else to post it for him? Either way, it is here for all to see. My spidey senses are all tingling, and I can't identify why...maybe I sense manipulation? IDK, but I don't have any sympathy, respect, or trust for this guy.