Great topic and I appreciated reading all the wisdom here. It gives me so much hope.
I feel like I just came out of my haze a couple of months ago. Found out they have been engaged for months now and she's living in the house with him. Mediation was cancelled due to the mediator's emergency surgery and will happen sometime in the New Year. So, not divorced yet but it's in the works.
Finding out about the affair was devastating.
Starting to find out who I am, amazing.
I am just starting to appreciate the freedom I have now. I started to take some self-growth classes, pursue the interests that I have. Been out on a few hikes, went camping and started to meditate. I feel like I am giving birth to a new me, which is pretty amazing.
I get lonely at times, and with the one year anniversary of dday coming up this Monday, I've had a lot of memories of what it was like that day, how I felt and his complete lack of remorse. I don't live in a house of lies anymore.
I am beginning to know what I want and what I deserve now. He certainly did not deserve me!!!! I get that now! Starting to love myself. Feels really awesome!