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User Topic: First "date" in almost 30 years...
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Asked out next Saturday. I am as jumpy as a cat on a hot tin roof!! And maybe just a little excited about it as well...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How exciting!!

What will you do on the date?


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2589 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just going to meet up for a casual dinner. Nothing special.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is still exciting, enjoy your First date! Keep us posted!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG!!!! So excited for you!!!
Where did you meet him?
I cannot imagine what I will be like if/when I get asked on a first date!!


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 621 | Registered: May 2011
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where did you meet him?

We were both waiting for our cars to be repaired...

Can you believe I am already trying to decide what I am going to wear?? Geez, I thought I was past all that already...

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 7:41 PM, November 18th (Monday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
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Default  Posted: 3:46 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

nice


Me = FBS
Him = gone


things that happen in my life do not define who I am. I get to choose to be the best I can be, for me. cause I'm worth it.


Posts: 286 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: my happy place (most of the time)
broken2
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Phoenix, you go girl!!!

Can you believe I am already trying to decide what I am going to wear?? Geez, I thought I was past all that already...
Oh, why the hell not. That's part of it. You are perfectly normal in trying to decide what outfit to wear.

Have fun!


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Nov 2007
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

UPDATE!

The evening was great. We chatted for hours. Closed down the restaurant then walked next door to listen to some karaoke (I've never done that) at a small lounge. He was quite the gentleman and held my arm as we walked across the parking lot because it was very icy. We have a lot of common interests, and he has quite a good sense of humor, which is a must. It was just a really good time.

However, didn't know DS's girlfriend works at that restaurant. She saw us (came over to the table to chat) and am SO busted! Lol I am waiting for DS's third degree of who I was with any moment. DS will feel better when I tell him the guy is a high ranking officer in the same branch of the military as DS. That was a bonus.

He said he would like to go out again. If it happens, great. If not, that's okay too. If I don't make my expectations high I won't be disappointed. So it is good no matter what.

Just really feeling good overall at the moment.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
newnormal
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whoop, whoop, whoop! You go girlfriend!


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
cmego
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great update


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4113 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Blackhair
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DOH!  Posted: 3:48 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you girl! Aren't you glad that you took the first step to get out and start dating?!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
torn2bits
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is amazing! How fantastic that you are such a great person to be asked out by someone while waiting for your car. It like a movie!

Congrats and keep having FUN!!!


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
persevere
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a nice time - awesome! A little stressful to have your kids know about your first date, lol, but it sounds like you have it handled. And you have a fantastic perspective.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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