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User Topic: Carrots, Eggs or Coffee?
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read this on facebook this morning. I really liked it and thought it might be helpful to others suffering their own hardships here.

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She then pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.

The granddaughter then asked, "What does it mean, Grandmother?"

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity -- boiling water -- but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of your life. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you changed by your surroundings or do you bring life, flavor, to them?

ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this. Thanks, debbysbaby.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very cool!

For the record, I've been all three at various times.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For the record, I've been all three at various times.

I was thinking the same thing!


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So shake him off
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Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great analogy!


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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finallymefirst
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been all three. Happy to say that over that last few months I'm finally getting the hang of being Coffee.

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this.

All three. Coffee has only come recently.

Thanks for posting!


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