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User Topic: I'm being a big baby
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Since the ddays there has been a photo of each of the OW, dressed to the nines in her best, in the newspaper. This REALLY bothered me, it sunk me..
It made me feel so insecure and unimportant.

The newspaper took a picture of us at an event the other night. It was one I was proud of how I looked and I thought it was maybe my turn.

So then itís not included but I turn to the sports section and there is OW#1ís son, winning an award.

I feel crushed. But I know logically, I shouldn't care. I have way too much invested in something, not sure what....


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4899 | Registered: Dec 2010
LA44
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Newspaper or not, I bet you looked beautiful rachelc! Now stop sucking your thumb!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2277 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At our house we call this "having poop in your pants." LOl Cause we klassy and all that.

Now buck up and go change yer drawers cause those women are *expletive deleted in respect of the R forum guidelines* and not worth a moment more of your time.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6428 | Registered: Jan 2011
LA44
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Klassy Rebreather, you crack me up! Did she make you laugh, rachelc?


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2277 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yes, she did!


But I think its reasonable to trigger over this.
I want to solve this as a team.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4899 | Registered: Dec 2010
Lucky
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Call the newspaper and request and purchase a copy of the photo. Frame it and put it somewhere prominent in your home!!


♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥


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Swims
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rachelc, it sounds like you need a dose of "honey, they always affair down". Hugs to you!

Posts: 127 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: East Coast
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Call the newspaper and request and purchase a copy of the photo. Frame it and put it somewhere prominent in your home!!

I will! And it's now my FB Profile Pic!


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4899 | Registered: Dec 2010
Lucky
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I will! And it's now my FB Profile Pic!

YAY YOU!!!


♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥


Posts: 36162 | Registered: Apr 2005
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well according to MC I should pray for the OW when I'm triggered. Got nothing to lose, I guess..,,


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4899 | Registered: Dec 2010
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I pray ow heals enough never to eff up anybody (mainly us) again and to leave us alone forever. I say that prayer to myself whenever I notice myself wishing her harm....

I just realized the prayer gets her out of my head...it really is a good idea, at least for me.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10057 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
OldCow18
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you got the pic, and OMG, so sorry you have to see a constant reminder of her and her family in the newspaper, wtf?


Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013
LA44
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am glad you got the pic of you looking fab!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2277 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OOOH I have a better idea, call and request the pics of the two OW's that have been in the paper. Get them and have a cathartic, ceremonious destruction party. Have H piss on them, you light them on fire, throw the ashes to the wind, after you thoroughly stomp them to bits. Exorcise those demons. Literally and figuratively.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8430 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

notta bad idea tush!!!


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4899 | Registered: Dec 2010
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ya'll make me laugh!


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1943 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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