Topic: Abbondad Part 5
Member # 25341
| Posted: 12:55 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
This is great news AD, sending you a big FIST BUMP!!!!
I am so happy for you and your children that you will have some peace from this bit of crazy. (not to say that her crazy is completely over, unfortunately )
I've got my fingers crossed for the closing, hope it all goes well for you.
Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options
Posts: 2624 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 24961
| Posted: 3:06 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
Fantastic AD. I'm soooo glad it's over for you.
One last piece of advice: I'd have your lawyer send a letter before the house closing stating that she has until April 22 (give yourself a day or two before the closing) to collect any possessions still at your house. Once you move and the closing is done, any property left by her, stated in the MSA, will become yours to do with as you see fit. ie. you are NOT moving the TV and the chair to your new house for her to claim again a month later....if she wants this stuff, she gets it before you move.
I just sent my X an email regarding a date he had to remove his stuff, but with your X? Yeah, you need it in legal terms.
I'm glad you slept so well last night, and I hope you are going to do something to relax and celebrate in the next few days.
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Posts: 5541 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Member # 40012
| Posted: 3:36 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
Congratulations on the closure of that chapter. Take the kids out and celebrate with Ice Cream!!!
M 14 years at time of DD
2 young daughters
A-3 YEARS and her husband was an accomplice.
In R, IC, & MC Since 1 week after DD. On the mend with the help of God, Friends and Family.
Posts: 89 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Central FL
Member # 497
| Posted: 4:30 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
AD, you have SURVIVED INFIDELITY. Congratulations!!!
Character is what you do when no one is watching.
There is the right path and the easy path - which one will you take?
Posts: 1279 | Registered: Sep 2002
Member # 35812
| Posted: 8:25 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
Standing up and clapping for you! I am so pleased that this stage is over for you! And I second legally and formally giving her a limit to send someone over to collect her belongings.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 31229
| Posted: 8:56 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
Great news, AD! I'm sure the crazy won't end for a while, but at least you have that hurdle over. Now a big sigh of relief and enjoy your new home and time with your kiddos. Congrats - you've come a long way!
[This message edited by thenon-goddess at 8:56 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday)]
Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!
Posts: 1249 | Registered: Feb 2011
Member # 38923
| Posted: 2:57 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014|
All my congratulations have and will be said face-to-face.
So pleased for you, buddy
You can't fix crazy. All you can do is document it
Posts: 721 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
Member # 30997
| Posted: 4:04 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014|
I can't tell you how pleased I am to read this AD. Its been a long road for you, but you have done so well in truly awful circumstances. Congratulations and welcome to the rest of your life. YOUR life.
Posts: 877 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 37898
| Posted: 4:20 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014|
I've been reading everyone's accolades and smiling. I was talking to someone yesterday and told her that I survived this with the help of my therapist, my attorney, my brother--and an online support group, not one of whom I have ever met face-to-face. She was incredulous--not the least of which because she knows my skepticism when it comes to "group anything."
Yes, I know "I" did it, but really--I absolutely can see myself still wandering the hell of Limbo for at least a while longer if it hadn't been for SI. And I say this for anyone who has followed my thread as a lurker and for any newbies: listen to the people here. And don't be me.
Yes, I have--incredibly, to me--survived infidelity. Can I go now? ;-)
Mod, close this damn thread--I'm off to " New Beginnings."
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
Posts: 1643 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 42192
| Posted: 7:41 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014|
*high five* abbondad.... Great outcome...
On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014
Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
Member # 14576
| Posted: 7:53 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014|
Can I go now?
If you mean from SI - HELL NO! If you mean from D/S, HELL YES!
Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS,22 mo.& 2 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.
Posts: 5086 | Registered: May 2007
Member # 2
| Posted: 8:08 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014|
Mod, close this damn thread--I'm off to " New Beginnings."
Please and thank you are a couple things that would have been nice of you to add to your demand.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Posts: 198435 | Registered: May 2002
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