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User Topic: Abbondad Part 5
woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mazel Tov!


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

Posts: 370 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: VA
Beyond
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^

What Wounded said


XOW.

Posts: 342 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Virginia
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it really all over and done? I'm afraid to exhale.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 1496 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm just thinking about that playboy pad at the yacht club now cluttered with all her stuff, the kids's stuff and now a giant dated TV and a huge LayZeeBoy crammed in as well.

So much for sexy minimalism.

She's a nutter, that's for sure. Now go celebrate, then gird your loins for the next round of insanity if he dumps her....

[This message edited by FaithFool at 11:03 AM, March 30th (Sunday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17323 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it really all over and done? I'm afraid to exhale.

Me too. CSTBX is refusing to allow her attorney to pick up the hard copy of the signed MSA today. She will probably try to make more changes to it, as I am certain she is in a severe state of buyer's remorse. Doesn't matter. Tell it to the judge Tuesday.

Meanwhile, I wrote an email to my attorney, fretting over whether she will actually pay me what is required as per the MSA. My attorney's comforting response:

"Stop working on the task of making sure CSTBX understands. You could tattoo your list on her arm and she wouldn't get it. I totally expect her to be completely and utterly noncompliant with everything. But it is a very well written contract and it will be enforceable. You will pick your battles and engage in post-judgment enforcement procedures in a strategic manner. She will comply or she will face sanctions and collection procedures, and lose everything."


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow - your attorney sounds absolutely awesome!


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

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purplebreeze
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A very long and hard fought battle. It is good that it is almost over. You have done so very well through this.


me 64
WH 66
married 44 years
DD Jan 16 2011

Posts: 356 | Registered: Mar 2011
hexed
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry until someone besides this crazy bitch has the inked original, i don't buy it.

sort of congratulations....

fingers crossed that it will happen on Monday.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My bet is that she threw in the lazy boy thinking you'd be so attached that you'd refuse to sign and then she could blame the delay on you. She didn't realize that you are far less material than she is. It looks like her plan backfired.

I'm sorry until someone besides this crazy bitch has the inked original, i don't buy it.

^^^This.


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


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still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry until someone besides this crazy bitch has the inked original, i don't buy it

^^^this

But even if she doesn't give it to her L, Tuesday is just around the corner!!

So, with great hope I am ***standing and clapping for Abb***

GREAT job buddy.

Sending strength.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry until someone besides this crazy bitch has the inked original, i don't buy it

Oh, I'm definitely in agreement. I'm sure she has some last minute craziness in store.

My prediction is she has or will change her mind yet again, and/or added/deleted language to the MSA even though she already has signed. Which I'm sure the judge will love.

But I do know her attorney #4 is DONE with her. No way will
she represent her in trial or otherwise. And STBX is done with attorneys. (Wouldn't be surprised if she decides to represent herself.). Regardless, Tuesday should be in my favor. I am ready for anything.

Meanwhile, I haven't spoken to my children in three days. I'm sure CSTBX has turned off DS's phone and has discouraged him from calling me. My "punishment." I am letting it go at this time since I want zero communication with her until after Tuesday. ANY contact right now (like texting her to have the kids call me) would be poking the Narc Bear.

[This message edited by Abbondad at 3:02 PM, March 30th (Sunday)]


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw on another thread someone had a clause added that if the other party was found in contempt they had to pay legal costs.

If she adds anything I'd be tempted to agree if she adds this clause. I foresee her living in the land of contempt - and I'm not psychic.

I'm still in the conga line but I'm not exhaling just yet either.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tentative "Yay!"

Waiting with everyone for Tuesday. (Picture us all in your living room with big "AD's #1" foam fingers and t-shirts and hats)

LOVE your attorney, by the way. Couldn't have put things into perspective any better.


If you can't learn to enjoy your life when you have problems, you may never enjoy it because we'll always have problems. - Joyce Meyer

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Looking forward to seeing how things play out tomorrow!!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4143 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AD, you're probably right about her making changes to the signed MSA. I can visualize her gleefully showing up in court, waving the "edited" document and saying "April Fools!"


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like what your lawyer said about her losing everything.


k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pray for Karma. It's ashame. Good luck with your new journey.

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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Meanwhile, I haven't spoken to my children in three days. I'm sure CSTBX has turned off DS's phone and has discouraged him from calling me. My "punishment." I am letting it go at this time since I want zero communication with her until after Tuesday. ANY contact right now (like texting her to have the kids call me) would be poking the Narc Bear

Don't ignore this at all. You try like hell to call those kids and make contact.

When you don't then you print off all proof that you tried to call your children at various times during the last few days and explain to your lawyer that this is FYI information for any Parental Alienation that may be needed.

Because this is not punishment, it is Parental Alienation and she sure as shit doesn't need anything else to fuck up on at this point.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Finally!


It's not over though..you know that. She will continue to fuck with you as much as YOU allow her to for the next several years.

Make sure you keep an eye on her.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you today and wondering how your holding up?

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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