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User Topic: Abbondad Part 5
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This Tuesday morning, April first. 8:45. Maybe she will sign at 8:44.

Don't become a smurf waiting for that to happen Abbandad.

Since everything is so close, any and all texts from her (unless it is child related) need to have nothing but crickets in response.

At this point, there is nothing to say or do. Even if you do give into any demand, there is just another right behind it waiting....so at this point there is nothing that you could agree too that would actually satisify her.

Wishing you luck....

[This message edited by Undefinabl3 at 12:37 PM, March 28th (Friday)]


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck AD. Tell your attorney to go balls to the wall since she's so obnoxiously ridiculous.


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Jeaniegirl
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^^

I agree. Soon this will be over and soon you will be sitting in your Lazy Boy recliner, watching your kids play at your new home ... after you have deposited your checks from her.

Stay strong!


"Because I deserve better"

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Final (I hope) Inevitable Crazy has begun. In rapid succession, here are the last three emails from CSTBX's attorney to mine:

"She's looking over the agreement. I am trying my hardest to get her to sign but she keeps bringing up little things."

Ten minutes later:

"I threatened to withdraw if the msa is not signed by the end of the day. It's the best I can do . She doesn't recall entire conversations she's had with me, even emails."

Just now:

"I'm never representing this woman again . I'm beyond irate right now and I too have a lot of anxiety. I told her to sign the msa or I w / draw on Monday. I told her we are facing big sanctions."


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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Flowerforme
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is bat-sh*t crazy.

What happens if her lawyer withdraws?


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Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, she actually is crazy and compartmentalising anything that doesn't fit with what she wants her reality to be


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Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Abbondad...If this lawyer withdraws, will that mean that the court will continue the case until she get's a lawyer to represent her?

This is my only worry at this point and I wonder if she is actually pushing for this so that she can continue the case longer.

What sanctions is this lawyer talking about??


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New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it bad that I almost feel sorry for cstbxww's lawyer...only almost though...


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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry, but

"I'm never representing this woman again . I'm beyond irate right now and I too have a lot of anxiety. I told her to sign the msa or I w / draw on Monday. I told her we are facing big sanctions."

You called it AD!!! Buh BYE lawyer number (3? 4?)

Are there any lawyers left in your town, or have they all inexplicably gone on vacation to a land far far away.......

It WILL be over soon, then she'll just be X, and you'll be lounging on YOUR lazyboy with your kids watching the smartest tv in the world.

((((AD))))


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M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh jeez....


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20 years of OWs, WTF?
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The latest: She has refused to sign today "because she has the kids right now and can't talk, and she won't sign until her boyfriend reviews everything."

She and lawyer (#3) are supposed to confer tomorrow morning.

She ain't gonna sign; I don't care if Thurgood Marshall reviews it.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I threatened to withdraw if the msa is not signed by the end of the day. It's the best I can do . She doesn't recall entire conversations she's had with me, even emails."

"I'm never representing this woman again . I'm beyond irate right now and I too have a lot of anxiety. I told her to sign the msa or I w / draw on Monday. I told her we are facing big sanctions."

It's pretty awesome when a lawyer bitches about their client to the opposing lawyer.

If this lawyer withdraws, will that mean that the court will continue the case until she get's a lawyer to represent her
This is my only concern.

I could see how it would be possible for the case to get pushed back if her lawyer quits. However, I'm interested in knowing how long the court would give her to hire a new lawyer. She is burning bridges as a client. I wouldn't be surprised if nobody would represent her. And that would be awesome, except in how it might effect you and the case.

The level of crazy is too high for her lawyer. I bet she has several levels to go through yet though.

[This message edited by BtraydWife at 4:21 PM, March 28th (Friday)]


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TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Abbondad...If this lawyer withdraws, will that mean that the court will continue the case until she get's a lawyer to represent her?

Yes, this is my concern as well, and it is very likely. Plus my attorney still needs time to prep for court. She (my attorney) says that the judge (whom we have to see Tuesday morning regardless) will "lower the boom" on her when he sees that it is all her fault the case has not settled and that she is there to ask for a continuance. The continuance will be granted but the judge might scare her into signing.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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Jduff
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The latest: She has refused to sign today "because she has the kids right now and can't talk, and she won't sign until her boyfriend reviews everything."

You know, if her lawyer is this frustrated I wonder how the OM feels right now?


Divorced - 5/23/14
Already in my New Beginning - :)

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay strong dad! You're doing great keeping the crazy away.

It's going to be a tough weekend, she'll amp up the crazy over the weekend.

If I were you, I wouldn't answer her on anything but the kids. Nothing on the MSA-leave that to the professionals.

Sending strength for the next few days.

K


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CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't posted to your thread for a long time, but I do read every day.

You are doing so well. I think of you every day and send you strength and healing vibes every day.

Hang in there. You're almost free.

(((((AD)))))


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k8la
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dad - can your attorney request a full blown psych eval?

My concern is she is so psycho that when she loses, and she will, she'll do something bad to herself and the kids to still maintain the upper hand she still perceives she has.


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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOW. Is that lawyer young/inexperienced? While I have had frank discussions with opposing counsel I know and trust, I have never put in writing to third parties negative impressions or adverse discussions I have had about/with clients. I hope someone takes that lawyer aside to educate him and steer him away from ethics problems.

It is OK to give updates on progress, or lack thereof, on a settlement agreement to opposing counsel. It is not OK for the lawyer to lay blame and criticize his client in that manner---even if it is fully justified.


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crisp, would this be admissible? Specifically:

She doesn't recall entire conversations she's had with me, even emails."

It would be interesting at the very least. An e-mail sent directly to opposing counsel? Which could lead to:

can your attorney request a full blown psych eval?

How in the world could she be entrusted to properly medicate the children. There already have been concerns raised.


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DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
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BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOW. Is that lawyer young/inexperienced? While I have had frank discussions with opposing counsel I know and trust, I have never put in writing to third parties negative impressions or adverse discussions I have had about/with clients. I hope someone takes that lawyer aside to educate him and steer him away from ethics problems.

giggle giggle

She hired a "discount" law firm. This is lawyer #3. Her last lawyer (#2) had to place liens on her assets.

Dad should be sainted. This woman is beyond loco.

My concern is she is so psycho that when she loses, and she will, she'll do something bad to herself and the kids to still maintain the upper hand she still perceives she has.

Now you have me wondering. You hear those reports of people killing themselves and their kids in order to "win". The only thing that gives me comfort is that she sounds very NPD. They don't usually commit suicide from what I understand. Why should they? They are in the right and justified to do anything they want. Isn't that the mantra?

Still-maybe bringing it up to his lawyer isn't a bad idea. That's not the kind of thing you get a do over with.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


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