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User Topic: Abbondad Part 5
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love how they are her proposals and she won't even sign them.

I'm sorry dad! The end of this particular madness nears.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 1536 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
Jeaniegirl
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Waiting to see when she demands division of pencils, toothpicks, clothes hangers and paperclips from the home .......


"Because I deserve better"

Posts: 974 | Registered: Feb 2005
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have formally approved the final MSA and Parenting Plan. They are now in Opposing Team's hands. My attorney just sent me this email:

"I think she may have already approved it. I don't think STBX's attorney sent it with her redline edits without getting STBX's approval first."

I seriously doubt it. Nobody knows STBX like I do. She is not done fighting. No way. Several more rounds of Crazy to go before the final bell has rung.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1588 | Registered: Dec 2012
momentintime
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh please, please, PLEASE that the Gods aligned and she signed it. You have been through enough. But hey, if she signed it, and pays you what she agreed too, well, you will be enjoyed you new big, flat screen TV!


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl


Posts: 2941 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shocker! She is going through the MSA with a fine-toothed comb, calling me out on every penny she owes me. Lo and behold, five minutes after every challenge, her attorney receives irrefutable documentation (images of bank statements/credit card statements). Thank you, OCD-level organization on my part!

She also--as I predicted to my attorney--is arguing that I should drop off the kids from school when her timesharing begins. Uh, no. Even her attorney shared this with an admission that this is "not the norm."

This would mean I would have to leave work, drive a half hour west, then forty-five minutes east, then west, then east. Uh, no. I politely declined.

She must be going berserk.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1588 | Registered: Dec 2012
5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol,Lol,Lol.

I'm grabbing some popcorn and beer.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2725 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bringing more beer to the party. Pass the popcorn please.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
momentintime
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh the pressure, pressure! Will she blow, about time she learns she isn't in control of everything and you, your L and her L should jump at her command! Justice.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl


Posts: 2941 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, March 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Abbondad your experience is similar. I'm reading despite her psych eval and stay, the courts dont care. It is a moral outrage she has a BF , got pregnant, your kids together have to go through this shit, you sound like a very very good man. People lie at trials. If she's NPD then she's got Cluster B relatives and friends that have no clue what it's like behind closed doors with these aggressive, hostile, demeaning, uncaring, behaviorally bizarre people. They fall for the charm and looks.

I'd love to PM and compare notes.

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 1:02 AM, March 27th (Thursday)]


Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2014
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STBX still has not signed. I am supposed to attend a conference tomorrow. My attorney has told me not to go. (Trial is still set for Tuesday.)

She is now being especially vile. She submitted her final list of property that she wants, and included is my Lazy Boy. This was a Father's Day gift from the kids years ago. I am the only one who sits in it. The children refer to it as "Daddy's Chair." No way are they going to watch STBX's boyfriend recline in it. There are no depths to which she will not sink.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1588 | Registered: Dec 2012
confused615
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She just gets lower and lower..meaner and meaner.


(((AD)))


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7319 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

strength brother.

I wonder if her attorney is tired of her shenanigans yet. I know this is easier for me to say that it is for you to do, but stay aloof. watch her implosion from a distance.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2725 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder if her attorney is tired of her shenanigans yet. I know this is easier for me to say that it is for you to do, but stay aloof. watch her implosion from a distance.

Oh, I'm sure her attorney is very weary already, and the thought that trial remains a very real possibility? I can't imagine that she relishes the thought of representing this woman in four days.

I am trying to stay aloof. STBX just texted me asking about 1) our taxes, and 2) if I signed anything for the title company

1) It was she who angrily replied to me, "My attorney is handling it" when I asked politely if we can handle the taxes ourselves.

2) It was she would haughtily told our realtor to forward all documents to her attorney

So I forwarded these texts to my attorney. Crickets from me.

I've cancelled my conference. I emailed my attorney asking if I should stay or go. She responded, "Stay." So she knows as well that this may go to trial after all.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1588 | Registered: Dec 2012
velveteer
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in AD - you're getting close. Sending strength brother.
V


Divorced

Posts: 870 | Registered: Jan 2011
allatsea
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Default  Posted: 5:12 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Recharge your batteries for the trial. On the day, take deep breaths and count to 5 before you say anything. Never shoot from the hip.

I wish I had taken some diazepam.

Even when you 'win', be fully prepared for a massive down. The weight lifts off the shoulders but you then realise that your body and mind is simply exhausted. You will naively think that this is the end of the crazy and the beginning of a fresh start. It carries on.

My CSTBX has since told me that I didn't win and she came out on top. That I am the one who forced a trial and could not move on blah, blah, blah.

I'll be thinking of you

[This message edited by allatsea at 5:27 AM, March 28th (Friday)]


Me 40
WW 38
Together 19 years
Married for 9
DS(1) 9
DS(2) 7
Dday 10th Feb 2013
She moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar 2013. WW now has new baby
Divorced April 2014

Posts: 660 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
Merlin
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Default  Posted: 5:58 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Attorneys rarely tire of making several hundred dollars an hour, especially when their court appearance rates are higher than non-court rates.

Yes, your STBXW's attorney is likely tired of the crap. But she is still the paid and expert advocate for her.

Onward!


"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11


Posts: 1164 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: East Coast
Merlin
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Default  Posted: 5:58 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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[This message edited by Merlin at 5:59 AM, March 28th (Friday)]


"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11


Posts: 1164 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: East Coast
Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I forwarded these texts to my attorney. Crickets from me.

Good job! Crickets rule!


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 30 years 9/2/13
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS & 20 mo. GD & GB #4 due 8/15(DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

Posts: 5027 | Registered: May 2007
momentintime
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Refresh my memory, when is the court date?


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl


Posts: 2941 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Refresh my memory, when is the court date?

This Tuesday morning, April first. 8:45. Maybe she will sign at 8:44.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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