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User Topic: Abbondad Part 5
h0peless
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Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck today. Keep a stone face.

Posts: 1656 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck today. Allow yourself time to think about your answers before you speak. I just had an interview for a job evaluation and after I relaxed a little bit I said something that I hadn't meant to discuss. Be on your guard and take your time. You've got this.


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
hexed
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Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

good luck!

take your time with every question


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8439 | Registered: Apr 2008
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I might be late, but I am sending you MOJO and good thoughts, and of course strength.

AAS is so right, every time you piss her off know you are doing the right thing.

That hole she is digging is almost deep enough for her to lie down in now.

((((and strength)))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8228 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Abbondad
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Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Depositions were cancelled, as she SIGNED the binding temporary parenting plan. And I am fine with it. They agreed to change the most important language and terms to which I objected.

Fixed schedule, exclusive use and possession of home, bunch of other things. Trial has simply been postponed. But the big marital settlement agreement shouldn't be a problem. So this is a huge step toward settling, as the temporary plan will likely become permanent.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1587 | Registered: Dec 2012
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go!!!
I guess your STBXWW is finally starting to see that she can no longer manipulate/badger/pout/flirt you into doing what she wants.


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - R looks possible..

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6367 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AWESOME NEWS!!!! Go Dad!!!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17340 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fan-freaking-tastic. I know you still have miles to go, but this is awesome news.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25049 | Registered: Aug 2011
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, CONGRATS, CONGRATS, CONGRATS!!!! Have a great weekend changing the locks


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1726 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
HobbesTheTiger
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Member # 41477
Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!


BxBf, 26
Lots of FOO&other issues, working it through therapy
Legal profession

Posts: 151 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Continental Europe
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What awesome news!!!!


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1241 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
sudra
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!!!!!!


Me (BW) (54), Him(SAWH) (57)
Married 21 years, 1 son (19), 1 stepdaughter (27)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R

Posts: 1456 | Registered: Nov 2010
heartbroken_kk
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Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOOT!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1124 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best news I've seen today!


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 865 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! Silly I know, this makes me a little tearful for you. I so understand the frustration of trying to D an NPD. So glad for you!!!!


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
timeforchange
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah bugger am choked up and teary here in Europe.

Wonderful wonderful wonderful wonderful news.

A victory for you and for the share knowledge and support of SI.

You should be crowned the top 2012 SI graduate 😀😀😀😀

You stood up to a horrible bully however hard that was and won!!!!!!

You know we are all immensely proud of you right???

Ok off to find a Kleenex and deal with the lump in my throat.


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YAAAAAAAAAY! You did it!


It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb

Posts: 17058 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
purplebreeze
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! A big hurdle done and now, on to the finish line


me 64
WH 66
married 44 years
DD Jan 16 2011

Posts: 356 | Registered: Mar 2011
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you thank you thank you, SI Friends!! Could NOT have done it without you.

I am SO relieved. Passed STBX on the way out. She was white faced with fury. I said, "Bye!" airily. She would not even look at me, let alone respond. :-))))

I am boarding a flight right now for a weekend with a friend....

Aaahhh....


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1587 | Registered: Dec 2012
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have a freaking wonderful time with your friend, party hard this weekend, and come back to YOUR house! And change those locks!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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