I've found small joys in running, working out, church. But not the type to fill the void from the divorce. Sometimes I wonder if there is anyone out there I can find better than my exw.
I know that I am in search of myself. I am in charge of my own happiness. But someday I'd like to meet someone new.
In the past, when I have run into someone who seems interesting, generally, they are already in a relationship (and I refuse to be that other guy).
Any feel this way? Or is the dating scene better for others?
First, PLEASE, PLEASE get out of your mind that you will not find anyone better than your exw!!!!!! Although you may not feel it now, being alone is much better than being in an emotionally unsafe M.
You are new to the dating scene - give it time. These feelings will pass. Also, maybe instead of the bar scene, have you thought of joining a running club or other hobby club? That way, you would meet others with similar interests.
Others with more experience will be along with more advice. Have you checked out the New Beginnings thread? Lots of info on dating over there.
Let us know how it goes.
A lot of what you experience is not much different than when you were dating before you married. A lot is also very different. No one gets to adulthood without carrying some 'baggage'. And dating now will be something of a dance to determine is you, your date and your respective pasts can mesh.
I love women, always have. And, I kept to myself as a married man should and because I wanted to.
So I do go out. And it is sometimes strange. I also spend a lot of time alone and with guy friends.
You'll figure all this out as you go. Maybe you want a woman's company, maybe you don't. You need not push it.
Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11