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User Topic: I am so dumb, I need help
worried_lady
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been single for so long and just dumb when it comes to men. There is this guy I have admired from far for years. I mean YEARS. There is a rodeo this week-end and the finals are this afternoon. He works with the livestock for the rodeo as a hobby. I went out dancing last night and we danced quite a bit ( love to dance with him) As the evening ended he said you ought to come out to the rodeo tomorrow it is the finals and it will be really good. I like rodeos. Should I go or was he just saying this to be nice and trying to make the ending of the evening less awkward. See, I am 52 been single forever and just dumb.


Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.

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heartbroken30
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go! Have a great time! Try not to have any expectations and have fun. You never know.


Me - BS 42
Kids 12 and 9
Divorced

Posts: 1846 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: NY
Take2
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you like rodeos go. Just try to rein in any expectation of roping the livestock . That said, I wouldn't approach him, wave if you see him and then leave it up to him and see if he approaches you.

Note: This sage advice comes from someone who hasn't dated in 30 years!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not dumb - rusty.

Go!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aaand what exactly is wrong about submersing oneself in cowboy eye candy for an afternoon?


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Take2
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hell Faithfool! Now I want to go to the rodeo!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4112 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
worried_lady
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes the way FaithFool stated it makes it so much better. Just changing my way of thinking. As far as the dumb vs rusty I will still worry about that. It is so hard to decipher the animal known as MAN. UGH just not good at it. Sometimes it seems as if I am on the AM frequency and everybody else is on the FM frequency


Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well if you google Louis CK you'll get a giggle about that...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4LkrQCyIz8


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17340 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
worried_lady
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK so I went. I had so much fun!!

It was all indoors, they had a vendor area and tons of shopping. The eye candy was everywhere. Wranglers on almost every man. I felt a little bit like a dog just staring but my goodness the sites WOW. I did see the guy - he was working with the cattle. I stopped by where he was at after it was over and we talked for probably 30 minutes and then he had to get back to work. So who knows but it was fun and I am glad I got out of my comfort zone and all I can say is I like Wrangler jeans. Ladies I tell ya this is the thing to do. I think there is a circuit we could follow WOW


Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.

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numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the follow-up, worried! So glad you went and had fun. Also glad you posted and got good advice. Enjoy your NB!


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

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confused girl
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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG - you have become a Buckle Bunny!!!! lol. Have fun!


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Take2
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, November 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you Worried - one small step outside your comfort zone and a there's a whole world of wranglers out there!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4112 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
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