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User Topic: my first date!
PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, November 8th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a date!
From OLD. Right before I quit I messaged one person who had been messaging back-n-forth a few times but gone quite, to say "OLD isn't for me but I wish you well" to which he immediately responded gave me his # if I wanted to stay in touch.

We txted a couple of time, then he called to ask me out for coffee.
It was fun ...and also surreal, I haven't dated in almost 15 years. But it's just like bike riding right? or is it like falling off a horse?

I had a good time. He is kinda cute the conversation went well, and we have a a lot of things in common.

At the end of the date he asked me out again.
Then 30 min after we parted he txted to say he had fun and was looking forward to our 2nd date, which made me smile

Whether this pans out or not, I am just so proud of myself for putting myself out there. Two years ago when my M was falling apart I remember feeling so terrible, both emotionally and physically, that when I looked out my office window at a building under construction I promised myself that "when that building is finished I will feel better". Last year, when construction was completed, I looked at the building and realized I had fulfilled my promise. I had survived.
Today, I looked at the building and noticed the leaves of the trees planted at its entrance were changing color as they were blowing in the wind and you know what - it really signified a new beginning.


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, November 8th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yippee!!

(and I love the story about measuring healing by the progress on the building next door!)


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3209 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, November 8th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Enjoy the next date!!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2215 | Registered: Jan 2012
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, November 8th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, November 8th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats, and keep us posted on your second date. I LOVE hearing stories like this!! Thank you for brightening my day!

Good for you for taking a risk!

Also love how you realize how far you've come. Baby steps, one day at a time.... Love the fall imagery for your NB too!


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
khrisdeus
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, November 8th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is fantastic to hear! :)

Posts: 44 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Illinois
Blackhair
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Default  Posted: 4:24 AM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is awesome!
Old is fun and exciting! Especially if you find the right one it is a bonus!

Keep us posted, we all love the happy story to cheer us up!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

Posts: 177 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Canada
MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 472 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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