Before the D (which she initiated), my XWW moved halfway across the country (long story) so I was lucky enough to get to pack all of her items for her. When I was doing this she gave me a list of items that she absolutely had to have (ok, fine). The thing that I simply cannot understand is that this list of only 20 items included her wedding dress (top of the list), the photo album of our wedding (second on the list), a copy of our wedding video, a box of mementos from our wedding, and copies of all of our other pictures and videos. Other than the last one, I was happy to get rid of these things, and even the last one is questionable in my mind. We donít have any kids, so she isnít saving them for that.
Can someone offer some insight into this thinking? Why so interested in mementos of something youíre so desperate to run away from? Or am I way off?
you'll never be able to understand how she thinks, or why she does the things she does. SHE probably doesn't even understand what is going on in her own head.
she is broken
she is batshit crazy
I think it's an overcompensation, if they act sentimental about the D, they can hold on to the notion that they weren't thoughtless and detached in the M itself.
Not sure why she would want these items. Is she just trying to give you the impression that your marriage meant alot to her?? I don't know your story but perhaps she regrets her affair now but knows she can't go back. ????
He then told me he has a photo of ME on my wedding day 'proudly on display for all to see'. Because I looked happy and content and he felt like like he made me that way.
WTF? I was so creeped out you can't imagine. I still am. Such a violation.
They are fucked up little bunnies - they can look at those photos because in their mind they were good husbands/wives who 'just fell in love' with another. You can't help being in love now, can you?? What slippery slope???
My theory is that they are scared what the future holds for them ( even though it was their choice) and seek the comfort of happier days. Your wife wants her wedding dress etc because it was a great day in her life. All little girls dream of their wedding.
I think they all have that moment of second guessing if they are doing the right thing, but once they move out, that passes.
Then again, maybe she is going to have a bonfire in the driveway,like I did.
[This message edited by Pippy at 3:00 PM, November 7th (Thursday)]