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User Topic: I left today.
hurtyetstrong
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After months of going back and forth I left my husband today. Me and the kids are staying with my parents.

I talked about things last night, when I initially told him I didn't think we could work things out. Today I had him call me when he got off work so that I could read him a note I had written listing my reasons for leaving. After reading it, he proceeded to tell me why he thought we could still work it out and what he thought we needed to do to fix things.

We ended up being on the phone for 1.5 hours. I feel like he promised the moon and stars. But I doubt he will live up to it. For now I am committed to living separately - if there really will be R, he's going to have to show me he can fight for me.

I've seen this story before and I'm pretty sure I know the ending.

[This message edited by hurtyetstrong at 5:04 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)]


Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 18mo (as of May 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014


Posts: 156 | Registered: Feb 2013
sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you support! Whatever will happen, will happen. Move forward with your plan, don't listen to any of his words. If his actions someday convince you otherwise, then great, but words are meaningless. You are doing the right thing!

Good luck


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
rainagain
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Member # 14917
Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Hurt and kids)))


Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
Me: Divorced BS 49
DS22, DD19, DS17

Posts: 1288 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((hurt & kids)))) Sending you strength, honey.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24434 | Registered: Aug 2011
brknwmn
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sending so much love. this sounds exactly like my situation right now. you're not alone and you are strong! you were strong enough to get yourself and children out of a dysfunctional situation and you will continue to be strong no matter what direction you decide to go in.


Me: 26 BS Him: 29 WH
Together since Dec 2005
officially done 10-30-13

Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.


Posts: 78 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: United States
SusanR
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Default  Posted: 4:57 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband is seeing an SA counselor and attending an addicted men's group once a week.

I think. I know he is capable of lying to me.

He has told me his goal is to get back together but he has not pressured me at all. I think he knows he is not trustworthy yet.

He has asked what it will take for me to take him back. I told him I don't know and I don't know if it's even possible.


Posts: 1928 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Midwest
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