So today, I tried yet again, only this time I decided to try to just change the password (I know I can't) so I can see what email was listed as the backup.
Instead...I get a security question: What is the name of your first motorcycle. My WH never had one, so I'm assuming it's hers. The kicker is, the security questions were updated back in July, THE VERY DATE I sent an email to that account saying she could have him because I was done. At that point, the account supposedly hadn't been used in two months. WHY would she need to update the security questions on that very date?????
One of the emails he produced for me was from her to him in March at 10 AM on a Tuesday saying she was watching videos (porn) and thinking of him, and had some new toys to try out, too. And now a motorcycle!!!! She is just too good to be true. He should go to her!
Please know that I am in no way knocking women or women that ride motorcycles, watch porn, use sex toys, or anything like that. I always wanted to be more cool. I am just jealous that I'm not enough.
Someone talk me off this ledge...
[This message edited by Raven96 at 2:00 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)]
I am just jealous that I'm not enough.
Women on motorcycles are a trigger for me, too. OW has a motorcycle in our sitch. Thought it would lure my FWH with its stupid motorcycle. Really??? If FWH wanted a motorcycle he would buy one. Doesn't need to sit on the back of yours like he's your bitch. Or better, did you really think he would feel like a man driving your motorcycle and that would lure him away from me? At least you would be sitting in the proper place that was, apparently, named after it. The bitch seat. What a c you next tuesday.
I am so sorry for any women that ride motorcylces here but I really have a visceral negative reaction towards female's (even my sister-in-law) riding motorcycles.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
I guess it worked because I looked in to see what the he11 it was all about.
So, she's emailing him about watching porn and her new toys huh? Gee, I wonder how many men I could get, or you, or anyone, with those kinds of emails. Jesus, talk about someone that is just an attention whore. That screams 'pay attention to meeeeeeeeeeeeeee'. Desperate. Gross and desperate.
Don't worry about the bike. She isn't that 'cool'. Having a motorcycle means she was able to buy a motorcycle - nothing more. It's also a GREAT way for women to get attention, further proving what an attention seeking slugtrail this thing is.
You may not be 'cool', but you have dignity, which beats 'cool' every time.
I forgot all about that until today, when I found out about the motorcycle. That pushed me over the edge. The way she was so easy with telling him she was watching porn and thinking of him and had some new toys to try out was bad enough. It was like she was saying, "Don't you wish your wife was as great as me??" Having the name of your first motorcycle as one of your security questions, well, she is just SO AWESOME!!!!
Thank you, SisterMilkshake and Painfulpast for posting and making me feel better. Today was just a bad day. I really want that stupid email to go away. Why does she keep it?! More importantly, why does it bug me so much?? UGH!
In my situation, OW loves 4-wheelin', NASCAR, big trucks, and watching football.
I like libraries, art shows, wine tastings, and watching documentaries.
I do not feel "cool" when compared to OW (and I will not kid myself and think that FWH didn't mentally compare me to her, he became just like her during the affair).
I totally get it. Seriously, I knew OWs like that before my FWH had an affair.
I wish I had more words of consolation, but just know I get it, and I feel your pain.
We talked last night when he got home from work, and while he is never one to say bad things about anyone, he did say that she is disgusting with her gestures (some pics on FB) and he cannot believe how stupid he was. She's not "him" and that I am way above her, etc., etc., etc. (Of course I thought of the thread "Honey, they ALWAYS affair down" and had to smile).
Anyway, I try to be a pretty upbeat person, but yesterday I was pushed to my limit. Thank you to all who responded. I'm glad you "got" what I was trying to say, because I'm sure it was very garbled, like my brain was yesterday.
I am glad you spoke to your husband. It sounds like he was able to give you the support you needed. That is good.
I didn't think your post was "garbled" either.
Oh yea, no motorcycle but she's got the 4 wheel drive truck..
[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 8:44 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)]