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User Topic: "I just want to comfort you..."
Healing2012
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH and I are not D or R. We are in limbo - self-imposed. The longer this goes on, the stronger I get and the less I see us together. It's sad, but true.

However, a strange thing happened yesterday and if we were actually in R I might consider it a breakthrough, but for now it was just a nice thing to finally hear.

We are in a financial crisis (have been for a while). He lives with his mom now and we are losing our house. I've come to terms with it, but it's still difficult. I thought I had an apartment lined up for me and my DS, but it fell through last night. I texted my WH and lashed out - "you have a place to live and I don't," "this was your choice, not mine."

I was upset and scared. His response? "I just want to comfort you."

I was shocked. Two years out from D-day and he has never said anything like that before. It felt nice. I'm not putting any stock into it since we are not R, but I couldn't help wonder where we would be now if he'd said that earlier.


BS: Me (41)
WS: Husband (47)
Married 9 years
Two children 6 & 17 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Separated - not R, not D.

Posts: 359 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
Healing2012
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Member # 35238
Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. That was supposed to be "I just want to comfort you."

Sorry...I'm a writer and that stuff annoys me


BS: Me (41)
WS: Husband (47)
Married 9 years
Two children 6 & 17 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Separated - not R, not D.

Posts: 359 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's fixed for you


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 198457 | Registered: May 2002
Healing2012
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Member # 35238
Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh goodness! That's too nice of you. I will admit it was going to keep bugging me

Thank you...


BS: Me (41)
WS: Husband (47)
Married 9 years
Two children 6 & 17 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Separated - not R, not D.

Posts: 359 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
Deeply Scared
♀ Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's no problem at all


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 198457 | Registered: May 2002
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