My WH and I are not D or R. We are in limbo - self-imposed. The longer this goes on, the stronger I get and the less I see us together. It's sad, but true.
However, a strange thing happened yesterday and if we were actually in R I might consider it a breakthrough, but for now it was just a nice thing to finally hear.
We are in a financial crisis (have been for a while). He lives with his mom now and we are losing our house. I've come to terms with it, but it's still difficult. I thought I had an apartment lined up for me and my DS, but it fell through last night. I texted my WH and lashed out - "you have a place to live and I don't," "this was your choice, not mine."
I was upset and scared. His response? "I just want to comfort you."
I was shocked. Two years out from D-day and he has never said anything like that before. It felt nice. I'm not putting any stock into it since we are not R, but I couldn't help wonder where we would be now if he'd said that earlier.