For some odd reason this year Wh seems to think its time to go all out for our anniversary. Originally he wanted me to find someone to babysit the children for 3 days. NOT HAPPENING, I have never left the children overnight other than when I was hospitalized and our youngest still nurses. We are newish to the area as well and I don't know anyone I would trust to even watch them for a few hours. Now he wants me to cook this special dinner for the two of us. I want to ignore the day is even happening. I, honestly, rather spend the day playing with my children instead of cooking a meal that won't even be appreciated. Also, WHY do I need to work all day on a meal that is his idea?
Is it so wrong to tell him that he has ignored every anniversary so far I can ignore this one?
I don't celebrate my anniversary any more. Refuse to. Nothing to celebrate. Last year we celebrated the 1 year anniversary of the beginning of MC for us. Not sure what date, if any, we will celebrate this year. It's been a rather hellish one thus far.
Point being, if there's no reason to celebrate, why create more of a sham?
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Now he wants me to cook this special dinner for the two of us.
FTG is right! How is YOU cooking dinner for him special for you?
DD#2: 9/28/2010 with a follow up on 1/28/2011 where he decided to come clean about the EA actually being a PA.
The OW could have been anybody and both turned out to be nobody special.
Unfortunately its NOT normal circumstances. There is no way I want to do it and honestly I'm tired to biting my tongue and just doing what he wants me to do. Its time for him to realize it isn't all about him.
[This message edited by heme at 6:20 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)]
Your WH needs to be respectful of your wishes. HE did this. HE needs to do whatever you want to do or not do. You don't need to feel a bit bad. You're absolutely right...it's not about him!