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User Topic: Anyone feel guilty about how they treated AP?
deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For seven years every intimate detail about her and the affair has been on a cheater's site. So far, over 20,000 people know her name, know she slept with a married man, and know she is a trashy skank.

Regrets? Hell no!!!


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


Posts: 3245 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
wert
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To be honest I think he should consider himself very fortunate he messed around with the W of such an understanding man.

take care...



Posts: 1428 | Registered: Jan 2012
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm like Wert. Fuck, the girl is still breathing. Consider me generous.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6549 | Registered: Jan 2011
stongmomof3
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just feel like I was reduced to their evil bullshit when I went CRAY CRAY. And when I really think about them ( I bet I know them better than they know theirselves at this point from my past facebook , online stalking ) I see they are broken , uneducated, unattractive whores. I also see that they were manipulated by a very adept con man (MY WH) . I just hate that I have stooped to this amount of mean . It hurts that they had that power over me.

[This message edited by stongmomof3 at 11:33 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)]


Me 34 BS
Him 44 WS
3 EA, 1 PA each lasting over 7 months concurrently.
Are we in R? who the hell knows.

Posts: 61 | Registered: Oct 2013
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't feel giulty in the least for any of the things I said or did to the AP.

I will NEVER feel like it was enough.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
Issaquah
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't feel guilty about the things I said to OW6, but do feel a little bad about something I said to OW1. She had gastric bypass surgery and lost 100+ pounds prior to meeting my WH. After D-day he told me that he was repulsed with her saggy skin. I wanted to hurt her because of my hurt and found her on facebook. I wrote that he used her for sex and was repulsed by her body and saggy skin. Yes, she knew he was a MM and knew what she was getting into, but somehow I feel like I crossed a line. I have friends and family that struggle terribly with their weight and body image. I feel bad for going there, it was just too low.


BS - Me, 41 SAHM back in grad school
WS - Husband, 43 SA dx in March 2013
T-20, M-18 college sweethearts
Multiple DDays since 1999 - OW's all the way back to engagement
Most recent DDay 8-12,false R 1/13
DD-11, DS 13 with ASD

Posts: 779 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Virginia
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No guilt at all. OW is on a few cheaters websites; the most famous one, she has 3 MILLION views!

The bitch should've spit out XH's dick long enough to thank me for not skinning her alive.

She was incredibly lucky that I was unable to get to her at work (security clearance issues) and didn't know where she lived at the time.

I really wish I'd done more to her than I actually did. 1 month after DD, I sent her a brief text telling her I was tossing XH out. I still wouldn't mind letting her know that she got XH by default, not by his choice. It may be a better punishment to let her learn that on her own.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 767 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Garnet
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Called the whore every name in the book!! Told her who fucks someone else's husband in their back seat???!!! I answered for her, A FUCKED UP WHORE!! She was crying her eyes out after I was through. Not one bit of guilt what so ever!!! Will do it again if I see her, hope she's with a group!!! Hahaha


Garnet☀

Posts: 84 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: MA
foundoutlater
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No - he skated


Your beliefs donít make you a better person, your behavior does.

Posts: 1135 | Registered: Jul 2011
inshockandhurt
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nah, don't feel guilty at all. She deserved every damn thing I said to her and more. The bitch is damn lucky I didn't do the things I really wanted to, apparently I have more self control than she and my husband do. To be honest I still wish I had done those things. I say you go girl! And also, shesahomewrecker.com .... Brilliant!!! Hahahahaha!!! I want to post her nasty slut boob pictures that she sent to my husband on there, and then post the link on Facebook. Will I, hmmmm.... maybe. Hahahaha!


Me: 29 BS
Him:31 WS
D-day1: caught July-ish of 05
D-day2: caught 2/17/13 6 month EA/PA
Both were with friends of mine
2 sons
Trying to reconcile

"Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past."


Posts: 278 | Registered: Mar 2013
stongmomof3
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Issaquah, I told the PA skunk (who is 8 years older than i am and has a really low self esteem , and is very sad that she never had children) that I knew God only gave babies to people that would make a good mother. That she wasn't even as worthy as the crack whores that give birth to carry child. THAT is the one thing I regret the most. I know women suffering from infertility and at the time (the dday that I learned it was indeed PA although she swore and cried to me that it wasn't the day before) I wanted to hurt her with every ounce of my being.


Me 34 BS
Him 44 WS
3 EA, 1 PA each lasting over 7 months concurrently.
Are we in R? who the hell knows.

Posts: 61 | Registered: Oct 2013
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are you kidding me? You are funning right!
Pleeeease. If I didn't have a security clearance to worry about, I would give my brother or sister $1,000 for the bail.
I would find her and commence to giving her the worst beating she has ever had or would ever have in her life. Then, if I could afford it, I would post on billboards her name and a picture where she and he live, by her church, by where her parents live, etc etc., and the fact that she is a homewrecking whore.
I would Carrie Underwood his SUV with whore, homewrecker, Chylamidia and HERPES infected cumdumpster...think you get the picture.
I would send notification to her boss if she ever gets around to getting a job. I would put flyers in her apartment complex with her picture, her apartment number, her phone number.
Tee hee heee, boy this is the most fantasy fun I've had all day!
Hmmm, would love to pour sugar in the gas tank. Oh, yeah, I would give her number to other BS so they could crank call her.
LOL...oh hells no would I feel guilty. Did she feel guilty calling, texting, f...ing my husband for 3 years? Did she feel guilty getting knocked up by him and moving in with him and wrecking our family?
Nope nope nope nope!
Grrr, and him, Oh, I would do so much worse if I didn't have so much to lose.
Soooo, instead, I will heal, move on, and live a better life without him.
But I would never feel guilty if I could do a ll these other things!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2335 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

not that I would admit it to anyone but my friwnds on here but I do occasionally feel the tiniest hint of guilt Then it leaves quickly.


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1402 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
stongmomof3
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess I was having a nice day when I originally posted it because today I SO want to go beat the living shit out of them! These mood swings are pissing me off. I'm considering deactivating the website for the PA skank . And my attorney is the first one I told about the website (he's an old very dear friend of mine) after he cracked up he said to be the bigger person and take that shit down but that since it was all true and she sent the pictures there wasn't anything she could legally do about it.


Me 34 BS
Him 44 WS
3 EA, 1 PA each lasting over 7 months concurrently.
Are we in R? who the hell knows.

Posts: 61 | Registered: Oct 2013
stongmomof3
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oops I meant REactivating it.


Me 34 BS
Him 44 WS
3 EA, 1 PA each lasting over 7 months concurrently.
Are we in R? who the hell knows.

Posts: 61 | Registered: Oct 2013
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

StillLivin...you're my hero, I'm right there with ya!

When we get super old and have nothing to lose, let's do it. Let's go on a road trip and just DESTROY THOSE B*TCHES!

Haha


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
SeanFLA
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I reported my exWW's AP to his military command and it ended his high ranking career. Do I feel guilty about it? Not so much for him. I feel a bit guilty towards his spouse who had nothing to do with it and their benefits might be in jeopardy. But it wasn't my burden to carry. It really hit me to do that when exWW showed zero remorse and filed for D. Then the anger really hit when I discovered her AP was cheating on his wife who was going into labor. I was so enraged towards my exWW that she knew this and still went on with meeting him that I needed to take it out on somebody. And her AP was the easiest person available. I also wanted the guilt and shame on my exWW for what she was doing to me since she had zero remorse. She now has to live the rest of her life knowing she destroyed two families and I wasn't going to hide her nasty secret for her now that she filed and destroyed my life.

If she was any respectful human being, she should have called his wife and told her herself what she did. But she's too chicken shit for that.

[This message edited by SeanFLA at 11:15 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)]


BS(me) 48
WW 46
1 son 14 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley


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