Infidelity is one of the hardest things that we ever experience.
I am convinced that divorce is just as bad.
The laws governing divorce are devoid of sense. Our children and I have been financially ruined by my ex-W and a legal system that says it does things 'in the best interests of children' while destroying them and any possibility of a decent future.
This from a woman who declared that 'I don't want anything from you'.
Then, she all but burned to the ground a 25 year marriage, gets $3,100/mth permanent alimony, $1,500/ mth child support, forced the unwind of whole life insurance policies, 20-years in the making and leaving me without life insurance, forced 'buyout' of the family home.
With all this, she constantly whines that she is broke, even as she makes more than $100,000 as a state employee and has great current and retirement benefits. She does not contribute to our childrens' higher education expenses despite a court order.
Scorched earth is all she knows. But she 'doesn't want anything from me'. "I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence
Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11