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User Topic: Sweating Out Trigger Day: Emotion Is Hitting Now
MsRukia
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Sad  Posted: 1:25 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I've been so totally occupied with MDD's health, that affair stuff has kinda taken a back seat. We have been in and out of the hospital all week. I conquered one big trigger, being at said hospital overnight whilst WH was at home. The last two times this happened he had OW in my bed having sex. So when I gave birth to YDD, he had her in my bed while I was in the hospital.
Today is YDD 1st birthday. Huge trigger. Now that things are quiet, and I'm not occupied it's setting in and I want to cry. I suppose it doesn't help that I was up most of the night tending to MDD's medical needs. I had bad dreams all night about the affair.
WH has been reassuring. And so far , the trigger hasn't full on hit like I thought it was. But still, it sucks
Why does the birth of my baby have to be intermingled with an affair?
I hope it passes. Though thankfully , because of circumstances at least we are having a quiet birthday for her, which is what I wanted.


BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 165 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
devasted30
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is all still so new to you. Give yourself a break. I think you're doing extremely well considering.
Hang in there. Tomorrow really is another day. Time is the only thing that will make this easier especially if you have a remorseful WS.

Posts: 923 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((MsRukia)))) You've got an awful lot on your plate. Keep breathing. You can get through this.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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MsRukia
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys. Now there are moments it's so hard. I just feel angry I have so much to deal with at one time. It's overwhelming.


BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 165 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
1Bite2Shy
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel for you. I found messages from my WH to the AP while we were both sitting in the hospital waiting for my epidural to go deliver our second baby. I'm pregnant again, and every time I have thought about the delivery, I trigger badly. His first birthday was a pretty bad day as well.

I'm attempting to separate the two. It wasn't my choice to be involved in it, and he'll just have to deal with the consequences of his own choices as they come about.


D Day : July 30 2012
Trying to R.

Posts: 87 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: US
MsRukia
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1bite,
I super appreciate that. I feel alone. I'm trying to seperate things too. It's a work in progress, for sure.. I'm hoping by the 2nd birthda it will be better.


BS (34)
WS MisterP (37)
Together 14 1/2 years
D Day 03 Aug 13 EA & PA
D Day #2 01 Sep 13 continued EA & PA with OW
Slowly but surely finding my way.

Posts: 165 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Colorado Springs
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