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User Topic: donating kids toys-- hard for me
Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to declutter, which I have been doing, but now we are getting to tough choices.

Examples. My dd has a toy car that she can drive. It was about 150$ and has not really been played with that much.

Its 3 years old, and takes up a lot of space... But if course she wants to keep it.

What do you do... Give it away or keep it when the kid still wants it?

I feel bad because it was an expensive toy & hasn't been used a lot! Maybe if I take it to may parents house where they have a huge paved driveway, it will be used???


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also have a Dora kitchen that has seen a lot of use but is probably ready for goodwill.. Kids will yell if its gone...

?????
What to do??


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ok4now
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know what you mean.

I just went through this with my dd.

This year her school is having them fill a box with small toys and hygiene items that are being sent over seas.

I think this finally hit home to her. She was amazed that some kids do not even have soap and toothpaste.

I explained that even in this country there are so many children that do not have any toys, clothes and food for that matter.

It is still hard for her to give things up but she it is getting better.

I find that I also have a hard time. I think I relive my childhood through her toys. Her kitchen has the wooden food with Velcro that you can cut into pieces. I wish they had that stuff when I was little.

Her big thing is stuffed animals. We have a ton and she hates giving any of them up.

And the holidays are around the corner to add to the clutter.


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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Put the big stuff on Craig's List, Christmas is coming after all, then take the money and do something special with it. Let the kids know or not.

Donate the little stuff, its a good lesson to get the kids in on.


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i think the car and kitchen set will go... also a chair and a play house that is pretty big.

I hate to give away stuffed animals since I remember the people who gave them (and they are usually my friends or family members)

I also want to tell people, no more toys LOL! We are full! =) I know that would not go over well with the kids, but I feel like we are constantly buying, then donating, then buying more stuff. I guess that's par for the course when you have kids, but I almost want to say, you have a zillion toys, that have cost a zillion bucks, play with them til they break and then I will get you something else!

(that's what im doing with clothes... I used to buy them things, but I have not bought any clothes in 2 years. they get hand me downs and clothes as gifts, and that's it. I am finally getting to the point where my daughter does not have to smoosh her clothes to fit in her closet... in first grade, she had so much stuff that I decided to see if I could dress her in a different outfit all year-- we made it to January. THATS when I said enough, no more clothes. Trying to do the same with the toys now.


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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I always told DS that if he wanted new stuff he had to get rid of old stuff.

We made a tradition of purging old toys on birthday and Hanukkah. He picks what goes and it goes. End of story.

There was a few things that I kept and stored for him, for when he's older and has his own children... like his extensive Thomas the Tank Engine collection.

But other then that he learned that if he didn't get rid of older stuff he wouldn't get new stuff.

I had him help me choose and then he went with me to donate.

He's 12 now and toys aren't an issue anymore. He still collects Lego sets... which I'm sure he'll keep for ever... and he has some board games he'll probably hang on to.

But all the "Toys" are long gone.

It helped that he wasn't a very sentimental child and I'm not a very sentimental person. We both hate clutter.

Now if I could just get FWSO on the same page!


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh yes, I am very sentimental! when I was little I even had to apologize to my toys that I left when we'd go on vacation... I thought id hurt their feelings

now I just watch an episode of hoarders and start tossin'


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Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also want to tell people, no more toys LOL! We are full! =) I know that would not go over well with the kids, but I feel like we are constantly buying, then donating, then buying more stuff. I guess that's par for the course when you have kids, but I almost want to say, you have a zillion toys, that have cost a zillion bucks, play with them til they break and then I will get you something else!

Then tell people that. My kids never have received many toys. They get a couple of toys for Christmas (including one gift from Santa), and maybe one or two for their birthday.

My kids also go to private school, and they are exposed to the "haves." The families that are able to decide on a whim to go skiing for a long weekend in Colorado, who think nothing of spending $300 on one child for EASTER, where SAHMs have nannies. (And, trust me, the SAHMs aren't getting nannies so they can volunteer in school all day. It's to do things like exercise, etc.)

My kids don't get presents at birthday parties that we throw from age 2-5. In our parts, you invite EVERYONE from preschool. That alone, would 15ish gifts.

My kids don't walk around with a chip on their shoulder. Rather, they still understand they are lucky, even without a bunch of toys.

We asked the grandparents to help with post-HS education rather than buying things. We are thankful that the grandparents have largely complied. I understand my children at age 18 months-9 years will not understand the value of starting out their adult life with very little to no debt.

I do expect, though, that when they are 25, they will thank us and appreciate the gift of financial freedom over any toy that we could have gotten them.


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And, trust me, the SAHMs aren't getting nannies so they can volunteer in school all day. It's to do things like exercise, etc.)

This is one of my Sister in laws... SAHM with nanny, babysitter that she takes on vacation, housekeeper... her kids get fantastic gifts, so that is definitely a thought of mine during the holidays... "if SIL's kids get several $300 gifts, and mine get less, what's going to happen..." I remember one year there were many tears because her kids would not share with mine (they are all about the same age) and mine ended up looking at her kids play with these amazing toys, while they had art kits and playdough.... good gifts, but no match for a 300$ robot

What would you suggest to do at events like Christmas where their cousins will get a ton of pricey gifts, and they wont? Would it be weird to talk to the SILs and say, Hey, lets open gifts at separate times?

[This message edited by Gottagetthrough at 6:52 AM, November 4th (Monday)]


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