Looking back at our conversations after the dday, he told me that I deserved more from him, I don't deserve all these, that I'm a good woman, a good mom, that I didn't do anything wrong, that I am too good and that I deserve someone better, that he made a mistake and that he's not sure how to make things work between us so he'd rather start over on his own, that he does not want to keep hurting me, and that no one could ever replace me.
Maybe he was just being noble in some of the things he said and maybe some are sincere. Right now he is head over heels inlove with the OP, they got tattoos of each other's names, professes their love for each other on FB, etc.
On the other hand, I am trying (hard) to move on with my life. It's very hard but it amazes me how I am able to hold myself up and function at work and at the same time take care of my son and my 2 dogs.
My question is, will he ever realize everything that he said? The repercussions of his actions? Or has he realized it and has moved on?
Married for 5 yrs (dated for 2yrs)
It sounds like he has made his decision, so you need to protect you and your son. Have you seen a lawyer yet? If not, please do that first so you know what you can expect.
Secondly, I hope you are doing the 180. That is found in the yellow box in the upper left hand corner. It is under FAQ for the BS, #11. Please know that this is not "how to win him back." These are steps you take in order to remove yourself from his life until he removes himself (physically) from yours in January. Don't do another thing for him! No cooking for him, cleaning up after him, laundry for him, nothing! He doesn't exist in your world!!
Others will be along with more advice. I just wanted you to know you've been heard, and that weekends can be a little slow here.
Take good care of you and your beautiful son. Your WH doesn't get to just "walk away." He will be financially responsible, even overseas.
Post here as much as you need to!
Don't sit around waiting for him, though! You deserve way more than this garbage you're being given!! Keep your chin up!
Take a deep breath, you are doing really well. Focus all of your attention on you and your beautiful little boy. Life has a way of shifting and changing to include new horizons. So, find joy in little things. hold the people dear to you close (including yourself).
He is a fool for leaving. But he's right; you deserve so much more than he can give you at today.
Kia kaha (stay strong!)