Welcome to SI. I am sorry you are here. You have found a great place to find experience that can help you heal. Weekends can be a bit slow around here so don't get discouraged with only a couple responses. Keep reading and posting and asking questions.
There is a list if books in the Healing Library. That is located in the yellow box on the upper left side of the screen. There are also articles and FAQ that are very helpful.
A few of the most recommended books around here seem to be:
Not Just Friends
How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair
After the Affair
Please take care of yourself.
fWS 36 (broevil)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better
"Knowing is half the battle"
Expecting progress not perfection