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User Topic: To ask or not to ask - the sex question
Undone1
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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[This message edited by Undone1 at 2:31 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)]


Undone1
Married 10+ years to my high school sweetheart
DDAY 10/27/12
Me 55
WH 55
Blended Family: 25, 21, and 20
Married 10 years
"The Universe Unfolds as it Should"

Posts: 301 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Missouri
Undone1
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I asked everything I could think of, but my WH was minimal in his answers. Of course, his was 3 years, and much of his experience is the same thing over and over. Traveling on business, hotels, her staying 1-3 days. It's big and it's ugly.

For me, I never felt that I understood my H feelings, his affect, what really happened when the hotel room doors closed, what they talked about etc.

Recently, I started reading a blog by a woman who struggled and wrote about that, but I also found a blog by "the other woman" and it was very helpful. For other people this might trigger them and may not be helpful, but seeing the other woman's take on the affair (not my OW) was helpful. It is hard to read. Because my WH has a hard time showing emotion, and is very reserved, I think that he minimized what happened, particularly when it started. I wish I didn't need to know all the details.

If you want want the link to her blog, send me a personal message and I will send it.


Undone1
Married 10+ years to my high school sweetheart
DDAY 10/27/12
Me 55
WH 55
Blended Family: 25, 21, and 20
Married 10 years
"The Universe Unfolds as it Should"

Posts: 301 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Missouri
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