OK I just read this whole thread. Wow!!!
Bigger you win. That was hysterical!!!
Blake - I think your real question is erotica as damaging as porn can be.
My Answer: Only if you let it be. Porn for many normal people is not a big deal, they watch occasionally and enjoy it, with and without their partners, and have great sex, and normal lives. IT's the folks that get carried away with it and choose it over being intimate with their partner, just like the alcoholic chooses booze instead of family, and the gambling addict chooses going to the casino over spending time with their spouse.
For me Erotica can be a great starter. Meaning, I am a mom of teens, I work full time, I have a ton of responsiblities and sometimes sex is the last thing on my mind, but if H is interested and lets me know that he is interested a particular day, I can take a bit of time to read something that may get my mind going, so that I can and will look forward to that quiet initimate time with my H. It doesn't rule my world, and it helps SOMETIMES, so where's the harm? I don't see it.
But Porn was never an issue in our M. In fact we will occasionally watch it together, and just like a shoot em up movie is not reality the same goes for porn. We know that in the real world the refrigerator repair man that shows up isn't 6'3" built like a Olympic God, and hung like a horse. The housewife who has no cellulite, and perky boobs, and is cleaning the house in stilletos are not reality. We all know the refrigerator repair guy that shows up is some bubba with ripped pants, a beer belly, and furry ass crack, and I certainly have my cellulite, droopy boobs, and NEVER wear stilletos, unless I am already lying in bed.
So NO For those that don't have an issue with it, it's not a big deal, and won't lead to some fucked up version of what sex is or should be.
Oh and BTW Twilight is not even close to real erotica, that was just some teenage winey narcissitic bullshit. I only read because my son wanted to,a nd I had to be sure it was ok.