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User Topic: Using the 180
roarlouder
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am under the impression this is meant to be used immediately after DDay. We are about 2 months out, doing IC, MC. There's been a lot of info provided by WS and questions answered. The A was ended immediately. I don't know if we will get through this, right now I guess we are trying to, but I haven't made any long term commitments- only that if we continue to work on it and he continues to meets my expectation- I committ to not make any decision before the new year. Of course if he breaks NC or something else that's a different story.
I didn't find this site until a number if weeks in, is it still appropriate to do the 180? And to what extent? I am concerned that at this stage, it may seem as though I am pulling away and not willing to see where the work gets us in the next 2 months.


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
jjct
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The 180 is for dealing with an unremorseful spouse, not one who is doing the hard work of fixing the mess they made...

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roarlouder
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok thank you for clarification! Good thing I asked. I was feeling like I was messing up. If his willingness changes, then it can/should be implemented though right?


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
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