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cancuncrushed
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

really elated happy? Just plain giddy? Was it an outside event? When was the last time you felt good, in love? I cant remember giddy happy. Its been along time. I think they felt giddy happy. That makes me angry. I will be giddy. ITs my goal. And it wont be an A.


a trigger yesterday

Posts: 885 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: athome
losingmyground
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWH's Christmas party about 6 months after Dday.

I drank, danced and didn't give a care what anyone thought.

The funny part...he couldn't seem to remember that side of me. Even came home and told our oldest that I can drop it likes it hot.

There are many ways, besides an affair, that can make you feel that way.


Married 13 yrs
3 kids 13, 10 & 1
I'm 34
FWH 37
Affair lasted 6 months
Ended 09/2011
Found out 06/2012
My father died during the affair
In the middle of Reconcilliation

Posts: 291 | Registered: Jul 2012
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yesterday. My H is working as a volunteer firefighter... he just got his new uniform. Oh my word. The look in his eyes when he saw me looking at him the way I was looking at him... Knowing I could make him feel ten feet tall made me feel positively giddy.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 774 | Registered: Jul 2013
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((cancuncrushed)) I just read your bio. Your pain comes through so clearly.

That giddy feeling comes from freedom - I don't think you can ever feel that if you don't feel that you have the truth. You really do have a right to the truth from your H, and you really do need to trust yourself.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 774 | Registered: Jul 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((canuncrushed)))) You will feel that again, honey. Promise.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 12:40 PM, October 31st (Thursday)]


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24462 | Registered: Aug 2011
maddmurph
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((cancuncrushed)) I just read your bio. Your pain comes through so clearly

Same. Wow, you wrote my story (minus two years of R) better than I could. I feel you, and I'm wondering the same thing myself.


Me - BS, 33
Her - WW, 33
DS 7, DD 3

Posts: 129 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: OH
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Almost every damn day. You know why? It's not because I am R'd, and in a great marriage, it's not because we love each other.

The reason I can get giddy at silly stupid things is because I have healed myself. I am happy with me, and I love me. (I love my H too, but that really is second).

When you finally put yourself and your needs first, and get mentally healthy life is much better, and easier.

Believe me I have a shitton of unhappy to deal with daily. Work isn't great, kids are both struggling with stuff in school, son is having some emotional stuff, H had a health scare that needs followed up on next month but I have to pay the remainder of the medical bill first, and can't do that until the middle of next month, blah de blah blah blah.

But I do have a job, a home, good kids, and I am a smart competent woman, and I am happy with who I am. Therefore when something silly or funny happens, like my son winning the costume contest for dressing like a teenage girl and making duck face all night, I can laugh hysterically.

Life is short, too short to spend much of it in the pain that you are. Find a way out, find a way to make yourself happy, and strong. Giddy will come, and it will feel better than you ever remembered it.

((((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7843 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((cancuncrushed)))

Meeting new friends at the Houston SI g2g.

As a toddler mama, I don't get out much.

I miss that giddy feeling too... it's harder to find these days, but I know it exists.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16469 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spending time w/my one friends dog does it for me. Just the unadulterated love that comes from him. It's easy to be present and joyful in that moment.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 733 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't remember, really trying but can't


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4742 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whenver my daughter and I sit in my bed together and watch funny youtube videos or a great movie and laugh like loons until our sides ache...we do this weekly!

Nothing in the world bothers me during those nights!


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
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