Topic: when was the last time you felt.....
Member # 28156
| Posted: 12:02 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
really elated happy? Just plain giddy? Was it an outside event? When was the last time you felt good, in love? I cant remember giddy happy. Its been along time. I think they felt giddy happy. That makes me angry. I will be giddy. ITs my goal. And it wont be an A.
a trigger yesterday
Posts: 810 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: athome
Member # 36070
| Posted: 12:04 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
FWH's Christmas party about 6 months after Dday.
I drank, danced and didn't give a care what anyone thought.
The funny part...he couldn't seem to remember that side of me. Even came home and told our oldest that I can drop it likes it hot.
There are many ways, besides an affair, that can make you feel that way.
Married 13 yrs
3 kids 13, 10 & 1
Affair lasted 6 months
Found out 06/2012
My father died during the affair
In the middle of Reconcilliation
Posts: 290 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 40139
| Posted: 12:16 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
Yesterday. My H is working as a volunteer firefighter... he just got his new uniform. Oh my word. The look in his eyes when he saw me looking at him the way I was looking at him... Knowing I could make him feel ten feet tall made me feel positively giddy.
Posts: 526 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 40139
| Posted: 12:34 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
((cancuncrushed)) I just read your bio. Your pain comes through so clearly.
That giddy feeling comes from freedom - I don't think you can ever feel that if you don't feel that you have the truth. You really do have a right to the truth from your H, and you really do need to trust yourself.
Posts: 526 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 33226
| Posted: 12:40 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
((((canuncrushed)))) You will feel that again, honey. Promise.
[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 12:40 PM, October 31st (Thursday)]
You can call me NIK
"Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in." -Cohen
Posts: 21894 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 40940
| Posted: 12:52 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
((cancuncrushed)) I just read your bio. Your pain comes through so clearly
Same. Wow, you wrote my story (minus two years of R) better than I could. I feel you, and I'm wondering the same thing myself.
Me - BS, 33
Her - WW, 33
DS 7, DD 3
Posts: 129 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: OH
Member # 21101
| Posted: 1:10 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
Almost every damn day. You know why? It's not because I am R'd, and in a great marriage, it's not because we love each other.
The reason I can get giddy at silly stupid things is because I have healed myself. I am happy with me, and I love me. (I love my H too, but that really is second).
When you finally put yourself and your needs first, and get mentally healthy life is much better, and easier.
Believe me I have a shitton of unhappy to deal with daily. Work isn't great, kids are both struggling with stuff in school, son is having some emotional stuff, H had a health scare that needs followed up on next month but I have to pay the remainder of the medical bill first, and can't do that until the middle of next month, blah de blah blah blah.
But I do have a job, a home, good kids, and I am a smart competent woman, and I am happy with who I am. Therefore when something silly or funny happens, like my son winning the costume contest for dressing like a teenage girl and making duck face all night, I can laugh hysterically.
Life is short, too short to spend much of it in the pain that you are. Find a way out, find a way to make yourself happy, and strong. Giddy will come, and it will feel better than you ever remembered it.
Kids: 14 & 16
Married for 21 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy
Posts: 6000 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 31349
| Posted: 1:13 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
Meeting new friends at the Houston SI g2g.
As a toddler mama, I don't get out much.
I miss that giddy feeling too... it's harder to find these days, but I know it exists.
Me: BW 34
Crazz: FWH 32
For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot
Posts: 13832 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 33523
| Posted: 1:32 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
Spending time w/my one friends dog does it for me. Just the unadulterated love that comes from him. It's easy to be present and joyful in that moment.
Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd; free of the overgrown baby
Everything is as it should be.
Posts: 606 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Member # 34827
| Posted: 1:53 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
I can't remember, really trying but can't
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..divorced slut who prefers committed men, specializing in befriending and bopping the fathers of her kids team mates
Posts: 3783 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 35624
| Posted: 2:06 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013|
Whenver my daughter and I sit in my bed together and watch funny youtube videos or a great movie and laugh like loons until our sides ache...we do this weekly!
Nothing in the world bothers me during those nights!
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Posts: 902 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
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