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cancuncrushed
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

really elated happy? Just plain giddy? Was it an outside event? When was the last time you felt good, in love? I cant remember giddy happy. Its been along time. I think they felt giddy happy. That makes me angry. I will be giddy. ITs my goal. And it wont be an A.


a trigger yesterday

Posts: 903 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: athome
losingmyground
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWH's Christmas party about 6 months after Dday.

I drank, danced and didn't give a care what anyone thought.

The funny part...he couldn't seem to remember that side of me. Even came home and told our oldest that I can drop it likes it hot.

There are many ways, besides an affair, that can make you feel that way.


Married 13 yrs
3 kids 13, 10 & 1
I'm 34
FWH 37
Affair lasted 6 months
Ended 09/2011
Found out 06/2012
My father died during the affair
In the middle of Reconcilliation

Posts: 291 | Registered: Jul 2012
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yesterday. My H is working as a volunteer firefighter... he just got his new uniform. Oh my word. The look in his eyes when he saw me looking at him the way I was looking at him... Knowing I could make him feel ten feet tall made me feel positively giddy.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 807 | Registered: Jul 2013
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((cancuncrushed)) I just read your bio. Your pain comes through so clearly.

That giddy feeling comes from freedom - I don't think you can ever feel that if you don't feel that you have the truth. You really do have a right to the truth from your H, and you really do need to trust yourself.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 807 | Registered: Jul 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((canuncrushed)))) You will feel that again, honey. Promise.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 12:40 PM, October 31st (Thursday)]


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25359 | Registered: Aug 2011
maddmurph
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((cancuncrushed)) I just read your bio. Your pain comes through so clearly

Same. Wow, you wrote my story (minus two years of R) better than I could. I feel you, and I'm wondering the same thing myself.


Me - BS, 33
Her - WW, 33
DS 7, DD 3

Posts: 129 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: OH
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Almost every damn day. You know why? It's not because I am R'd, and in a great marriage, it's not because we love each other.

The reason I can get giddy at silly stupid things is because I have healed myself. I am happy with me, and I love me. (I love my H too, but that really is second).

When you finally put yourself and your needs first, and get mentally healthy life is much better, and easier.

Believe me I have a shitton of unhappy to deal with daily. Work isn't great, kids are both struggling with stuff in school, son is having some emotional stuff, H had a health scare that needs followed up on next month but I have to pay the remainder of the medical bill first, and can't do that until the middle of next month, blah de blah blah blah.

But I do have a job, a home, good kids, and I am a smart competent woman, and I am happy with who I am. Therefore when something silly or funny happens, like my son winning the costume contest for dressing like a teenage girl and making duck face all night, I can laugh hysterically.

Life is short, too short to spend much of it in the pain that you are. Find a way out, find a way to make yourself happy, and strong. Giddy will come, and it will feel better than you ever remembered it.

((((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8507 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((cancuncrushed)))

Meeting new friends at the Houston SI g2g.

As a toddler mama, I don't get out much.

I miss that giddy feeling too... it's harder to find these days, but I know it exists.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17329 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spending time w/my one friends dog does it for me. Just the unadulterated love that comes from him. It's easy to be present and joyful in that moment.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 751 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't remember, really trying but can't


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5039 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whenver my daughter and I sit in my bed together and watch funny youtube videos or a great movie and laugh like loons until our sides ache...we do this weekly!

Nothing in the world bothers me during those nights!


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
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