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User Topic: How old was your WS when they cheated?
SBB
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Default  Posted: 5:15 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

30-40 (our entire relationship).

On DD he was 40, DD OW 38. OWUmpteen 24 - she is his office gopher and they had most likely been having an affair for the better part of 4 years.

My oldest child was 4 on DD. Nice.

[This message edited by SBB at 5:16 AM, October 31st (Thursday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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watersofavalon
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Default  Posted: 5:39 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

49. She was 25.

Cliche? Waddya mean cliche?


Me - BW 49
H - 52
T 31 years
M 21 years

3 children from 11 to 17.

EA with coworker for 6m maybe longer. She was 25!!
Dday 26/6/2012.

Reconciling. Hard work isn't it?

Getting there!


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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OEA- 21
PA1- 26
PA2- 33


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:48 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

41


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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chick
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Default  Posted: 5:49 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was 32....it was just over a month ago.

She was a new university student that he slept with on a night out so I am guessing 18-20, urgh


Me - 32
Him - 32
D-Day - 6th Oct 2013
He had a ONS on 23rd Sept 2013

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Issaquah
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Default  Posted: 5:53 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He started cheating at age 20 on his first serious GF with other college age girls.

On me:
22, her 27
27, her 38
38, them in their 20's-30's
40, them in their 30's


BS - Me, 41 SAHM back in grad school
WS - Husband, 43 SA dx in March 2013
T-20, M-18 college sweethearts
Multiple DDays since 1999 - OW's all the way back to engagement
Most recent DDay 8-12,false R 1/13
DD-11, DS 13 with ASD

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frigidfire86
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Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H was 25.
OW was 28.


Me: 28
Him: 29
Married 8 years
Daughter, 7 yrs old
D-Day: 05/08/2011

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 6:30 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

XWH: 37 (I was 36)
OW: 39 or 40


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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curiouswiz
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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

59, she was 29, now 60 and she's 31. Ugh...I'm 60...ugh.


God bless us, everyone.

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selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

50ish. Since I don't know when exactly it started.


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

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cayc
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

28-39 i.e. our entire relationship. I now realize the stories he told me about the wife before me were stories of her acting out due to his cheating rather than her just being a horrible person. So that start date is earlier lol.

OW ages ranged from 20 to 45 ... yes, when he was 34, the OW was 45 (i.e. older than me). Dumbass OW#umpteen though is early 30s.

Wanna take bets on if he's cheating on her??


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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HeartStings
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

40

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foreverchanged61
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was 36 when it started, OW was 27.


me:BS-39
Him:WS-39
Married 15 years
DS-14
DD-11
D-Day 11/2010
Trying hard at R
OW 29 (27 then) SAHM pure white trash

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cdagal
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was 55, she was 50 - I was 50. Same height, same body type, same profession. I guess he just really, really wanted a redhead. If I had known it was that important, I would have considered dying my hair Would have been a hell of a lot cheaper!


M - 25 yrs
DDay - August 5, 2010
Divorced - December 12, 2011
He married the OW 35 days later
"Fall seven times, stand up eight" - Japanese proverb

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Mack9512
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ONS - 40
EA/PA - 42


"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

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Dawnie
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was 43
She was 23

Mid life crisis maybe?

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DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 46)
WH (him) - 43 (now 48)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 19)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm

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heartache101
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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Him 31 ow 41 me 26
Him 32 ow 21 me 26


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

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Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

EA #1 - 42 - married 22 yrs
EA #2 - 44 - married 24 yrs.

I'm seeing a lot of WSs/FWSs in their 40s and in long-term marriages.


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS,22 mo.& 2 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH = 45 (shortly before his 46th bday)
MOW/ex-fiancee = 45

But I suspect 37 with work colleague and again at 43 with another old HS gf.

He has denied and I have no absolute proof. But he has lied too many times about the LTA, so I just live with reckoning Im right and hes just a liar!


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

51 & 53 - 56 (that I know of)


FBS 54
Separated and Divorcing

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