..IMO the best thing to do is to not get hung up on wanting to see the AP suffer. Sure most or maybe all of us would like to see that. But we should not base our happiness on that happening. Instead focus on YOU. Make yourself well. Branch out in new directions and enlarge your life with new experiences. Build a good life for yourself.
@Razor.. wise words indeed!!
..the consequences for the OM in my case were huge..even better than a fate worse than death because i believe he spent 35 years of his adult life immersed in guilt and shame for his betrayals. His own guilty conscience planted the seed of the brain tumor that took his life at 57.
We had been friends thru Boy Scouts, High school, both of our marriages, best friends, so i thought.. for 25 years.
..learned in 1987 of his betrayal but wasn't given anywhere near the truth, not until 2009 did i learn that their betrayal had gone on for my whole relationship with gf/wife..
I can't help but wonder what he must have thought, after learning there was no reprieve, no cure, no chance for survival and he was facing certain slow death, with all the progressive losses of body functions.. treatments and pain associated with surgeries and chemo/radiation.. all to no avail..
..he had to have thought long and hard about how he had lived his life in deceit and betrayal of both his wives and bf.. all the while, his 2nd wife and two young boys looking on.
..he had to have also thought of me and my hatred of what he had done to our friendship and what he had done to my gf/wife and the effects it had on my marriage and young family.
..i like to think that he just couldn't put that out of his sub-conscience and it ate at him for the 18 years after i confronted him in his law office.
..how could he not have thought that he was getting his just desserts for his disgusting choices.
..too bad i didn't learn of his ultimate fate until 3 years after he died, to the exact day (April 18 2006)
..I promised him in his office that day in '87 that I would live to dance and piss on his grave and I have kept that promise, on many ocassions!!!
..i'm still hoping to meet his younger brother there to confront his part in the betrayal, knowing that they both must have had many laughs about what he had been getting my gf/wife to do.
..the brother no doubt realizes that he was sentenced to 30 years with no brother, and that his parents had to suffer thru the slow death and burial of their son. Father is still alive at 92, mom passed in '09..
..so, ya, i wished for justice all those years and as it turned out, he got exactly what was coming to him and more.
..a few years ago, a member of this site pointed out a verse from the bible for me to read(Psalms 109) and it describes exactly, the fate he got, thanks to God's justice..
..he never had the balls or the courage to apologize to me after discovery, no doubt he was just too ashamed..
..i guess i'm one of the lucky ones to have seen real justice doled our on this worst of all best friends.
..i'm guessing he now resides in a very 'HOT' place and i'm not talking about Jamaica!!
In his case, justice was served very well indeed..
feel like a terrible person for thinking such awful thoughts about another human being.
No, not in the least!