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User Topic: Are you allowed to tell coworkers to blow their nose????
circe
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is someone in my office with so much phlegm that it sounds like they're gargling. Every few seconds there's a long, gurgling wet SNORK followed by a swallowing noise.

I really want to throw up. Then there's a wet sounding cough that sounds like he's drowning, with all kinds of thick disgusting noises and then more of the gargling open mouth snorks. I want to vomit.

If this was one of my children they would be medicated, and using kleenex to get rid of it rather than recycling that gunk into their mouths and throats. I'm so repulsed by the thought of how infective this sounds.

Does it not bother him that he's so filled with phlegm?

Does he not want to blow his nose in the bathroom?

?!!WHY NOT!?

Seriously my gag reflex has been going all afternoon. I have headphones in listening to Enya trying to calm down, but now I keep thinking I feel clouds of cough crossing the room to my breathing space.


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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have the same problem but more of a chronic sniffer!!! Omgosh get a box of Kleenex already!!! My mother would slap me upside the head if I did that!


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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I gagged READING that description let alone actually hearing it.
Ugh!!!!


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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Leave them a note telling them that vitamin D3 -400iu works wonders.


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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When this person isn't at their desk put a box of tissue on the desk for them. Maybe they'll get the hint.


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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What kind of relationship do you have with this particular coworker?
If it is friendly enough, you could walk over and ask that he blow his nose instead since the noise is making you a little sick. Joke about it a bit to take the sting off, but maybe he needs a stronger hint than a box of tissues left on his desk.


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circe
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know him well - he's here temporarily from a different campus. I really don't think he thinks it's rude or gross. I can see him standing there talking to someone else, open mouth coughing and snorking, with the other person cringing and leaning as far away as he can. It's soooo gross! I actually can't stop watching for some reason!

And yea the sound of someone chronically sniffing makes the Mom in me almost tell them "it's time to get a tissue and take care of that!" It's like a reflex, like telling your kids to chew with their mouth closed or say please.

In this case I'm just wondering if he's got TB or something. That amount of stuff in his lungs just isn't right.

[This message edited by circe at 4:02 PM, October 28th (Monday)]


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circe
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cringing guy just asked Coughing guy "Are you ok man?" and Coughing guy said "Great! Why?" and Cringing guy gave up.

Damn.


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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

dp!

[This message edited by circe at 4:02 PM, October 28th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Give him a few, then the next time he snorts/honks/swallows his own phlegm, say "Dude! Blow your nose before you drown over there!!".
To which he'll likely say, "I'm fine!"
To which you can then say, "Then blow your nose before the REST of us drown!!"

It sounds like you aren't the only one cringing, so maybe you'll get some verbal "backup" as you joke with Snott.


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circe
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Snott! Much better.

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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi!

I'm here to play devils advocate.

I can't blow my nose, neither can my DD16. We both have ruptured an ear drum in the past, and I know it hurts my ear when I blow my nose, DD too.

The guy is probably used to feeling like he does and probably has no clue how gross he sounds.


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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The guy is probably used to feeling like he does and probably has no clue how gross he sounds.

Yeah....while the first part could be true, I have a hard time believeing that basically internally picking your nose and eating it doesn't sound gross.

Circe - I would just walk over and say "I am not sure if you are unable to blow your nose, but the sound of you swallowing your own snot is making me quite ill. May I get you a box of tissues to help you breath?"


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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have an HR department? If so, go to them and file a compliant.

If you don't have an HR department then I would approach him and tell him that not only are you concerned about his health but his health related issues are distracting to you.

Ick...poor guy!! Poor YOU!


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circe
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's not here today; I hope he's ok.

I get that he might have nose blowing issues, but it's not just the lack of that, it's the open mouth coughing and.. well I won't get too graphic, but I'm sure you've all heard someone cough & swallowing.

I wasn't the only one who was grossed out yesterday - we did some water cooler talk and agreed on a group email along the lines of "hey, happy flu season, let's all agree to..." and then a list of simple hygiene measures, including covering coughs and staying home if you're too sick to make that feasible. This morning there are also hand sanitizers and kleenex boxes on everyone's desk so no one was singled out. Whew! A face mask wouldn't be out of line either!

I'm sorry the guy has a health issue, but that phlegm gargling was so gross.


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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A face mask wouldn't be out of line either!

The group email is a great way to get the message out to him without him knowing it's about him


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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he has allergies as I do, he gets congested in his nose, starts breathing through his mouth, and the normally moist mucus in the windpipe becomes thickened. Then he has a 1/2-inch ball of gelatinous mucus (sorry for the description) clinging to the inside of his breathing tube, basically drowning him. One has to snork and cough until the damn thing decides to come up. Ahhhhh..........happiness.

Rather than Klennex, he could probably use an allergy pill.


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circe
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do feel bad he's so sick, I just wish he'd hork in the bathroom.

He's back today and phlegmy as ever. His tissue box is still intact. And today he belched several times, a few normal rumble ones like anyone might have after lunch, and then one HUGE open mouth disgusting one. I think he must just not know it's rude to do that. Is that possible?

I am predicting that he rips a ripe, loud fart next.

eta. I meant 'snork', not 'hork'! I hope that's not on the agenda...

[This message edited by circe at 4:34 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tomorrow he'll be clipping his toe nails


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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to vomit now that I've read some of the posts in this thread.


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