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TennesseeGuy
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those were her words (Men). I appreciate your opinion.

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TennesseeGuy
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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I agree with you. I am trying my damnedest to communicate, however at this point she is either done or not ready to. I can't force her. There is nothing I can say to her to make her want to work through this. Right now she is hurt. I'd do anything for her, but unfortunately there's nothing I can do.

I'm a fixer. It's my nature. I see a problem I want to take the necessary steps to fix it. Unfortunately, in this situation there is no manual. I've apologized, sincerely, sought help, and made changes in my own life. Now all I can do, I think, is pray for the best.


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toomanyregrets
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS here.
I didn't see a stop sign so I hope you won't mind.

Your XGF left you twice after you'd moved to be closer to her.
Did she ever ask you to come with her when she took the temp job or went to another city for her phd?


BH - 63
fWW - 59

"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife


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TennesseeGuy
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Toomany-

Please, I appreciate the input and really would love to have a BS opinion.

Yes, she moved twice. She pushed very hard for me to move to be with her, and I wanted to. It was just tough to leave family, you know? But I did. And gladly. And then she left twice.

She never asked me to come with her. I am a young professional and was able to get a very good job when I moved to the new city. The temp job, was just that. Temporary. She would be coming back in 3 months. As for the PhD, she asked me if I was okay with it. I'm starting to think she wanted me to make the decision for her. That way, no matter what happened, she could use that as a crutch. Maybe I'm wrong, but knowing her well, it's a possibility.

She would tell me, "I'll go for a year and reassess." She said she might transfer home. And after she enrolled, she gained a connection who could get her into another school. Which was 3 hours away from where I moved to, the other way. She moved North and was talking about transferring South. So me moving to be with her during her PhD was a little unrealistic at this time.

I don't know what to do. She has stopped contacting me. It's been only 3 days, but that is 3 days longer than anytime in our 3 year relationship. I'm just afraid she isn't dealing with it.

Is there anything I can do? I've apologized, sincerely. I've talked with her parents and as I've said before, there is nothing more humbling than looking a man in the eyes, apologizing for hurting his daughter and then affirming your love for her. I'm also still in IC. I just am not ready to give up and move on.

Lastly, there are major battles in my personal life that I am winning and have been a some time now. I had my own issues, but it's been 6 weeks of victory and triumph. Which, no matter what happens, is good for me and an potential relationship in the future.

I appreciate all the input from everyone.

Thanks


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