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User Topic: The High Road
Simple
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Member # 18814
Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Give her the gift of missing you and let her figure out what that means to her.

Perfect way to describe it.

I took my ring of as well and placed it next to hers. Even offered for her to sell it as well.

Wonderful!

We're here for you. You're doing great! More and more it's looking like you're taking care of yourself. Whether or not you R, please trust us that it helps you in the long run. I'm in 6 year R and even then during R, each of us has to work on ourselves and not become bitter people. My FWH and I both learned we had to work on ourselves and since we're in R, work together too. Those are two separate jobs. So anything you do on your end now to help yourself and better yourself, will help you down the road with a new relationship with your WW or with a new one... or with yourself. Regardless any relationship from now on SHOULD be different than before.


Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
No12turn2
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Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, November 1st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You guys are awesome. She came home from her first day on the job at the hotel doing house cleaning for minimum wage. I think her bubble had officially burst


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
No12turn2
♂ Member
Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fell off the 180 wagon this weekend. It's easy to stay on it with her working and staying on schedule. She came home late last night due to some NBA players staying at her hotel and extra work needing to be done. No call and I finally sent her a text. We also talked until she was irritated when she came home. I feel like I took 5 steps back in my progress.

Now my mind is wandering since she has her first day off and she was pissy last night.

[This message edited by No12turn2 at 12:43 PM, November 4th (Monday)]


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
No12turn2
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Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AHHHHHHHHHHHHH....I just want that feeling of being lost to go away


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
No12turn2
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Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol. Sometimes you just need a win. So the WW needed to make a payment on her credit card she used to get her attorney. She went to log into her app that stores her passwords and she can't remember the password to get into it. Spent the last 2 hours trying multiple passwords. Claims it's my fault (of course) for snooping on her so much to where she always has to change passwords. Karma is a bitch.

My laugh was short lived today. Seems when my wife removed her phone from my plan, they charged me $95 to cancel the line. Bastards

[This message edited by No12turn2 at 9:47 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)]


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
No12turn2
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Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WW seems to be in limbo about what she wants. She talked to a friend of mine (she is friends with his wife) and told him she just wants to be happy. She also said she doesn't have a plan right now in order to get that. She talked to his wife the next night for the first time since this all happened. She did not talk about the situation at all. Their conversation seemed far more normal than it should be for what's going on. She even said she wasn't going to talk about our issues with this woman, prior to her calling. Almost like it was a chore just to call.

She has made no plans on moving out, other than saying she wants to and has not even told her attorney that she now has a job. This was the condition of her extending the separation hearing a few weeks back. Said she wanted to let me stay in the house and be on her own. She is rather comfortable.

She has applied for a few other jobs as she knows this one will not get her by on her own. She hasn't gotten her first paycheck yet, but most of that will go to her phone bill, her lawyer, and her credit card. She agreed to pay me back for her early contract termination fee on our phone plan ($95). Other than that, she isn't cleaning shit around the house or contributing to the meals.

She has stated that she no longer considers, or feels comfortable, calling our house her home. She also said she still feels resentment for moving her here. I was under the impression that I was forgiven for this, but it would seem I am not. She still sleeps on the couch by choice and I sleep in our bed. No intimate contact and no more pictures thus far.

I'm not sure what the hell is going on anymore


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
No12turn2
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Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THIS JUST IN:
I set my phone to read as a private number and the OM finally picked up. I actually had about a 20 minute conversation with him and discovered she was telling lies to both of us. Apparently, she said I knew about him and that we were already separated. He has children of his own so as soon as he found out she was not telling the truth, he initiated NC with her. Not sure I believe him or that I care. It also makes me think she would still talk to him if he were interested. Geez, did I do myself more harm than good?


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
No12turn2
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Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I couldn't help myself. I told my WW I contacted the OM. Her emotions ran wild as soon as I told her what we talked about and how he was trying to work things out with his wife. I realized at that moment that she had more love for him than she does for me. She is now in a depression and says she has been traumatized. Told me I should stop bringing him up and just forget about it because she has. Clearly she hasn't. I haven't seen her cry like that in years.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
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