While it seems like there is no hope today that doesn't mean there isn't hope tomorrow or the next day or the next. There is still a lot of healing that the two of you will need to work through but it isn't impossible. There are several couples still posting on SI that are the R success stories that you refer to it. Things weren't easy for them either but they found a way.
So think about what you want and then try to head in that direction. AKA Moo
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them-Vicky Baum