While it seems like there is no hope today that doesn't mean there isn't hope tomorrow or the next day or the next. There is still a lot of healing that the two of you will need to work through but it isn't impossible. There are several couples still posting on SI that are the R success stories that you refer to it. Things weren't easy for them either but they found a way.
So think about what you want and then try to head in that direction. AKA Moo
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.